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Why are narcissistic students academically successful?

The academic success of students has a direct relationship with the personality of the students. Studies and research outcomes manifested that the students who are diagnosed with dark triad personalities are academically well-performing. You may wonder how a child can possess a dark triad personality? yes, they could. This article clarifies “why the narcissistic students are winning academically” and “the reason for these personality traits”.   A personality that owns a high sense of self-pride, entitlement, and attention-seeking are the traits of a mental illness which is known as a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with such narcissistic personalities follow malicious behavior to achieve control and pride. Such personality traits have also been found in students and adolescents. Narcissistic students are also found to be well-performing academically and the reasons for that are given in this article.    Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) cannot be diagnosed at a young age i.e., below 18. Due to their constantly developing habits and adapting to the changes in the environment in the adolescent period, diagnosing the personality of the kids is not possible. However, they show or express the narcissistic traits they have inherited externally.   Academic Performance of Narcissistic Students   Narcissism has some particular traits such as self esteem, bloated self pride, high entitlement, and attention seeking that help them in developing certain abilities to be successful. Looking closely at society, one can find that narcissistic people are successful in academics as well as careers. Not every narcissist is successful, but undoubtedly, most of the achievers are found to show narcissistic traits in them.   Studies attested that the high self-esteem trait in narcissistic teenagers helps them score high in the exams. Narcissistic teenagers are found to have both enhanced initiative and pleasant feelings. The enhanced initiative triggers the mental reflexes and the thought process to solve problems easily. Thus, it solidly develops the ability to learn and memorize things easily.    What are the abilities narcissistic students gain through narcissism?   The desire to have pride and feel entitled triggers the narcissistic kids to outperform others. The narcissistic kids find themselves superior and assume that they are special in this world. To validate that, they work hard and perform well in what they intend to do. The required qualities to perform well in academics are obtained through the narcissistic traits of the kids.   The qualities narcissistic kids obtain that help them to achieve in exams are mental toughness, competitiveness, and low anxiety & depression.   Mental toughness Teens with a narcissistic personality despise failure and shame as it would shrink their self glorification. So, the constant attempt to not lose in anything provides them the mental toughness to achieve. The mental toughness also intensifies the hardworking quality of narcissistic adolescents and helps them concentrate on what they desire.   The mental toughness of narcissists does not allow them to give up on anything easily. That’s why it is not easy to convince narcissists out of any situation.   Competitiveness Narcissistic students believe that they are special apart from others and make an effort to outshine others regardless of anything. This enhances the competitive behavior subconsciously. On the other hand, the education system plays a vital role in boosting the competitiveness of narcissistic teenagers.    Less anxiety & depression Researchers specify that narcissistic people are likely to have low anxiety, depression, and stress levels. The grandiose sense of the narcissistic students makes them feel superior and entitled. This grandiosity strengthens their self confidence and motivation. Thus, narcissistic kids do not stress as they believe everything is under their control. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you.  What are the factors that enhance narcissism in students? Kids and teenagers do not inherit narcissistic traits consciously, having said that, narcissism emerges in oneself, especially in kids, due to external factors. Although there are several factors that correlate the academics of students with narcissism, the main factors that enhance narcissism in students that help them to academically perform well and achieve good grades are the parenting, guidance of teachers, and grading system.   Give a Read: How does narcissism originate in Kids?   Parenting Parenting is one of the prime factors that lie as the origin of evolving narcissistic personality in kids. In the case of a kid possessing a narcissistic parent, the child has a higher chance of getting engulfed by a narcissistic personality due to the constant exposure of narcissistic traits.   Academically speaking, students’ personality affects far greater through the way of parenting whether the parents are narcissists or not. Despite the lack of personality development in kids, wrong parenting enhances narcissistic teenagers to perform well in their studies. The wrong parenting characteristics such as overvaluation and over-expectations impact the kid’s academic career.     Activation of narcissism in a child is due to overvaluation and devaluation or lack of attention. Praising and valuing lavishly makes the kids feel peculiar and develops self importance in them. Such parents do think that their kid is special than others and deserves to achieve more. It looks like the parents support the kid unconditionally, which is not.   The overvaluation subconsciously creates a grandiose personality in them. Such a personality then increases the urge for validation and attention. Thus, it motivates them to achieve success in exams to feel superior above others. On the other hand, the parents who overvalue the child also start expecting more from them, which indeed leads to the devaluation of the kids which again sparks narcissism within.   Guidance of Teachers Apart from the overvaluation of teachers, there are some other factors that stimulate the narcissistic personality in students. Not every teacher is toxic, anyways, there are teachers who judge students with physical appearance and their flattening way of speech. Judging such students and praising them…

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How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long lasting?

Have you ever wondered that most people at high authorization show a high sign of dark triad personalities which includes being narcissistic? If yes, you might raise numerous questions such as “How would they be career wise successful?”, “How did they have such abilities to achieve so easily?”, “What could be the factors that drive them to be successful?” and so on. This article will answer that.   Narcissism is an upsurging phenomenon in society. It is a personality accompanied by a mental condition named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Not everyone who has this personality is mentally ill, however, they show major traits of NPD. Narcissists crave entitlement and power to control others. To possess that, they will go to any end.   Narcissists follow dark triad methods such as abuse, gaslight, manipulation, etc., to gain superiority in society. On the other hand, they also achieve grandiosity by gaining control showing their talents. They knew that acquiring success makes them a center of attention among the people and make them acknowledge the narcissists more. This is why narcissists want to be more successful than others.    Success can be anything for a narcissist like winning an argument, ranking top in academics, being a substantial businessman, leader, politician, etc. But the key motive behind them was to get surplus validation and entitlement.   Studies say that, On analyzing the personalities of successful people, the maximum number of people had shown narcissistic traits. In addition, they have enhanced organizational as well as learning skills adjoined with their personality. Scholars mentioned narcissism as a two-edged sword since it provides some quality skills in return for a dark triad personality. Are narcissists successful in life?   Psychology researchers say that narcissists are found to be more successful than others because they are inclined towards extrinsic success goals such as wealth, fame, position, and power but not on intrinsic goals like healthy relationships and personal growth. They seek a successful life to attain the power to control others to their will and obtain validation as they wish. Some of the key traits of narcissism that assists narcissists to be successful in their career are, Self-esteem Toughness Risk-taking   Give a Read: Dark Triad Narcissism and Its pattern of Abuse   Self-Esteem   Narcissistic people are obsessed with high self-esteem by having an inflated complexity about themselves, in other words, God complex. The ability to think highly of oneself adds as fuel to be successful narcissists in their career. How does self-esteem make narcissists successful?   The high self-esteem in narcissists develops an enormous self-confidence and the ability to be competitive. Narcissists despise losing and can’t accept failure. That is why narcissists hammer away more than anyone to become successful. They don’t want to lose credibility, power, or be looked down on by others.    Since narcissists think about being entitled and powerful all-time, narcissists develop a defined leadership as well as organizational skill to make things happen. They love to order, guide, and get validation from others which subconsciously inherits the leadership skills in them.   Self-esteem is a healthy personality that provides high-quality skills to be a successful entrepreneur, leader, or in any career. It is encouraged to have considerable self-esteem to be an achiever. However, self-esteem should be able to be controlled with self-control. Toughness   Toughness is the ability to not give up easily and work harder to achieve something. According to the NARC, a narcissist’s ultimate goal is always to protect his/her grandiose self and self-pride. So, a failure in a career could demolish their self-loathing fantasy. This is why the narcissistic personality builds a mental toughness to not lose at any circumstances.   Every research about narcissism says that those who are successful, have a well-built mental toughness, especially narcissists. If successful narcissists find any possibilities to lose, they follow any or even malevolent ways to retain their self-pride. And if there is any situation where the narcissists did lose, they strive to manipulate the situation with their mental toughness and make them look like a winner in the end. Risk Taking   A conclusion of research done by Maccoby.M, a famous psychologist, and researcher mentions that narcissism is of two types when it comes to the ability for success. One is productive narcissism and the other is unproductive narcissism. Only productive narcissists take risks and find a way to get their job done and be successful.   The majority of CEOs of companies are found to have narcissistic tendencies and they are identified to be great risk-takers. It is often misinterpreted as strong willpower with a charismatic character.   Furthermore, narcissists engage in risky actions only to harness endless admiration and attention. They also insist on putting their employers or friends at risk to achieve that. The heightened self confidence, motivation, and the urge to gain admiration trigger to take risky actions or decisions regardless of consequences.   How do narcissists get successful quicker?   Narcissists wish to achieve things that can be acquired in a short time. This is why narcissists get bored or show no interest in a true relationship or personality development which takes more effort and time. Narcissists have no fear to take risks in decision-making, manipulate taxes, or even cheat to become successful quicker. Researchers point out that not every type of narcissist possesses the skills to become successful, however, narcissists who are successful are said to have high intellectual and organizational skills through narcissism.   Recommended Read: How do narcissistic students become successful in academics?   Why narcissists successful are not long lasting?   Due to their elevated self esteem, narcissists do not like equally potential people and try to ruin them. This is why narcissists are bad at collaboration and partnerships. With that said, narcissists are also keen on materialistic gains and so, they are more likely to cheat business partners, obscure taxations, and torment their employees which is the reason for a non-long-lasting successful journey.   These are the things…

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4 Types of Narcissism and its Pattern of Abuse

Are you the one who is constantly questioning your self worth, became mentally abused, felt unloved in a relationship, or got blamed for nothing? There are high chances of constant exposure to a narcissistic person with you. Here is why   Among people around us who follow their own life developing their personalities, there are people with personalities who are intentionally bound to harm others and their lives. Possessing this personality is known as a Dark Triad personality. The most common dark triad personality is narcissism and people who are diagnosed by it, follow a certain dark triad narcissistic personality pattern to hurt others. According to google trends, the term “narcissist” has been widely searched across the world for the past 10 years. This indicates the growth of narcissism in society. Types of Dark Triads   There are three types of disordered personalities that fall under the dark triad category. They are Narcissism Machiavellian Psychopathy A person who has a psychopathy disorder cannot control their emotions in hurting others. Meanwhile, Narcissism and Machiavellian diagnosed people are consciously hurt and manipulate others with intention. And that is why it is difficult to identify them in society.    People often misunderstand these disorders with stress, anxiety, and depression in lack of knowledge about these traits. Specifically, narcissistic traits are proliferating within people nowadays. So, awareness must be created about this dark triad narcissistic personality and its patterns    What does narcissism mean?   Narcissism is a term mentioning people who have similar traits from a mental disorder named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person with a narcissistic personality disorder possesses high self-esteem, lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of entitlement who seek constant validation and respect by controlling others.   Narcissists have traits of both Machiavellian and Psychopathy that include manipulation, self pride, and intention to hurt others. However, they are not psychopaths who cannot control their emotions. Narcissistic people can control their emotions and also feel guilt and shame while being malignant.   How to diagnose a narcissist person?   In 1988, Robert Raskin and Howard Terry had modulated an evaluation with sets of questions based on the statistical manual of mental disorders named Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI -40). The suspect who scores above 21-40 claimed to have more narcissistic traits such as high entitlement, exploitativeness, and more intentional binding characteristics.   Contrarily, a person with a low-end score of 3-10 NPI had been found to have very low self-esteem with high depression and anxiety. And the people who scored from 11-17 were considered to have a moderate personality.   What are the 4 main types of Narcissism?   Psychologists had analyzed the personality of narcissists and found that there are some differences in their traits. According to that, they classified several types of narcissists. The major 4 types of narcissistic personality almost comprise other variants. They are Grandiose Narcissist: High sense of entitlement and control Malignant Narcissist: Violent and deranged in nature Covert Narcissist: Hideous and covertly hurtful Communal Narcissist: Deceitful and act trustworthy Grandiose Narcissist: “High sense of entitlement and control ”   Grandiose Narcissists reportedly have high self esteem combined with a high desire for entitlement and control. People with this personality are always self centered and seek to be a leader of a group. A narcissist with grandiose traits often transpires to be a leader, politician, or primary person in a family.   The desire for power to control others life is itself that drives them to attain such places. They are always appreciated for their courage, boldness, and leadership skills. In lack of constant respect and admiration, they exploit others and attain control.   According to scholars, research says that grandiose narcissists can easily create a large organization or company as they are good risk-takers. However, they tend to fail at authorization by objectifying the employees or engaging in malicious activities for the business.   Do give a read: How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long-lasting?   Malignant Narcissist: “Violent and deranged in nature”   Malignant narcissists are found to carry more dark triads than other narcissistic variations. They are relevant to psychopathy at times, although their acts are intentionally bound. Malignant narcissists are extremely harmful with bloated self pride. They possess no morals in their act and manipulate situations to their needs.   Those who were diagnosed with malignant narcissism were fragile to criticism and cannot take the blame. Instead, their high self-esteem behavior tends to blame others for their inability to regulate themselves. Also, these people fantasize about power, success, and intellect over others. When their fantasy looks to be sliding down, they act by whatever means to achieve it.   To do that, they show no empathy and intentionally hurt others to gain superiority. Malignant narcissists have high insecurity and will find ways to hide them as they are afraid of getting exposed.   Covert Narcissism: “Hideous and covertly hurtful”   Covert narcissism also known as vulnerable narcissism does not have more self importance like other narcissistic traits. However, covert narcissists lack self confidence, self worth and seek ceaseless validation from their partners. Covert narcissists are tough to diagnose as they manipulate the partner or victim to get validation by portraying themselves as a weak persona.   In lack of validation, the narcissists intend to covertly abuse and blame shift their partners for their miserable lives. This is why covert narcissists are poor at having healthy relationships. In seek of attention and assurance, they look out for other people than their partners. As a result, covert narcissists lie, cheat and abuse their partners.  Communal Narcissists: “Deceitful and act trustworthy”   Communal narcissists use communal ways such as being mutual, cooperative, and trustworthy to gain an advantage over others. As grandiose narcissists, they expect high entitlement but in the form of providing face accompanying and support. Communal narcissists anticipate being an organizer or the reason to organize things in a group.   Communal narcissists boast themselves as “I’m a good…

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21 New Year Resolutions that make you a better person in 2022

A New year’s resolution is the goals, dreams, habits, and relationships that you fix at the beginning of the year to achieve by the end of the year. It can be either one or more resolutions, yet it will always be the one to make yourself better than the previous year. So, why not stick to it sincerely?   People always look for creative and unique new year resolutions to try on every year. However, they mostly end up having a fitness goal and fail in it. Wasn’t that funny? You want yourself to be better but couldn’t achieve it. This is because changes cannot happen quickly, it takes time and patience.   Firstly, you must understand that you have a year. Despite that, if you push yourself hard on your first day, you are going to lose interest quicker. You must start anything from a bare minimum, practice daily, improve constantly and reach your target. Even if you did not achieve to the fullest, the result of your new year resolution’s intention will satisfy you. The best thing about these new year resolutions is that they make you change in a year for good. It may be your appearance, physical health, mental health, achievements, etc. Changes are always good if the intentions are good. Thus, achieving these changes directly changes your personality for good too. So, here are some unique and common new year resolutions that will make you into a better person for next year. Read it and comment on what your new year’s resolutions are for this year. 1. Stop Regretting If you fail at something before and you wish you had done that differently, then you will regret that situation. Regretting catches your soul at that instance and does not allow you to grow further. So, instead of regretting such situations, try to understand what you have learned from them. Try to avoid those mistakes again and move on to face the future ahead.   2. Show Empathy Empathy is the ability to care for others by understanding their emotions. Any random act of kindness to someone, dogs, or anything will develop your empathy. Start using comforting words, help people economically, buy food or anything that shows your care for others this year. 3. Avoid Dramas To have mental stability this year, do not create a drama to get validation or kindly avoid intaking the dramas of others. Dramas make you overreact and overthink situations. If you ingest others’ drama, you will start comparing your situations and their consequences with theirs. Thus, your mental stability will break. 4. Do not Procrastinate Procrastinating work shouldn’t be the one trait for you this year. Yes, it is a personality trait. According to research done by the Institute of Research and Journals, procrastinating things is a sign of lacking conscientiousness. Since, no one procrastinates things actively, i.e., shifting things to do better things, it always ends up slowing you down. When procrastination becomes a habit, your life will lag behind. 5. No more Gossips Gossips can be truly hurtful. For people who ask, how can gossip be harmful? Gossips contain either a fact or a fake about a situation that triggers people. If the information came to be false, the victim may suffer the greatest. The victim may be you or others whose information is passed out through gossip. Once someone is affected by gossips, both their reputation and trust in others might get demolished So, if you find any information is misleading, choose not to forward others. 6. Socialize more People have adapted themselves into an introvert after the past pandemic times. As the situation changes, people are struggling to become extroverts. Studies show that introverts are depressed and are less happy. Meanwhile, extroverts are much joyful in their life. To socialize, try to feel less awkward talking to others, try to present your point of view in a conversation, and mix decent humor in it. Socializing helps to understand people’s thoughts and emotions. If you are depressed and stressing over something, socializing with people you trust and venting to them can greatly help to reduce your stress 7. Apologize for your mistakes From this year onwards, try to apologize for every mistake you make that hurts others. Do not try to hide those mistakes by ignoring or lying about them. It will ruin your righteous personality as you will start to ask for validation from others for reasoning your mistakes. Instead, accept your mistakes and say sorry, whoever it may be. Doing this will develop trust and mostly would not ruin a friendship. 8. Stopping pleading to Others In any case, if you are being accused of a mistake you have never done, do not apologize for it. Even if the accuser is the person, you love the most, apologizing for nothing degrades your self-confidence and Self-love. Also, never please anyone for nothing. If a person makes you plead, they don’t love you. Pleading others will pave out the opportunity for people to take control over you. 9. Focusing on Goals instead of persons. People who are obsessed with gaining friends and relationships tend to move slower in their goal pursuit. So, focus on your dream or career more. Gather people who also support your dreams and have a goal for themselves. In this way, you can have both growth and people at the same time along with them. 10. Acknowledging yourself This is a crucial resolution that everyone must take in this new year. If you are a hardworking person, a quick acknowledgment from anybody will always motivate you. But very few acknowledge others’ hard work. This might hurt us, minimize our willpower, and confidence to strive more but keep in mind that you work hard for your life. The first person who acknowledges you must be yourself. It just does not end with hard work alone, constantly keep acknowledging yourself when you help others, give kind words, achieve a little goal, or for any small thing…

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Importance of Introducing Personality Development for kids

Humans are getting modernized day by day, which greatly impacted the culture, education, personalities, and lifestyle of the current generation. These impacts have to be commonly faced by the present young generation, so-called Gen-Z.   Among these young ones who are facing these changes, one of them may be your kid. Without a basic education and personality development skill, adapting to these pacing changes may be tough. So, this article will help you to delve into the importance of Personality development for kids and teach efficiently.   To understand the essentials and the ways to teach personality development to kids, you must have a clear understanding of it in the first place. What is Personality development? Personality development is shaping and enriching one’s character, habits, and talents to have a fully bloomed personality in time. This is achieved through education, parenting, and training courses. A person who inherited personality development activities tends to be more virtuous and wiser. Why is personality development important in today’s life? Today’s world is more complicated than in earlier days. Everyone is having their daily life facing many hurdles on their way. The hurdles keep on changing and have become more challenging. You may find the lifestyle of this modern age is difficult, but it isn’t. With your personality development and soft skills, you can evade any hurdles that you face in your life with ease. What will happen in lack of Personality development? The personality of a person defines his/her life, his skills, friends, etc. Good people always get attracted to one who has a good personality. Without a quality personality, self-development and achieving goals are not possible. You cannot segregate your strengths and weaknesses. Also, you may lack decision-making and other soft skills in absence of personality development.  In terms of mental health, a person can experience stress, anxiety, depression, and also even existential crisis without a standard personality. He/ she cannot bear the difficulties they face in their life. So, having a good personality results in a healthy mindset. What are the big five personality traits? According to research, it is found that people’s attributes can be categorized into five big traits. They are, Extraversion Agreeableness Conscientiousness Emotional Stability Openness to experience Extraversion- A person with an extraversion personality is liable to be dominant, more energetic, and optimistic especially in social interactions. Agreeableness- Agreeableness personality people possess a helping tendency, a gentle approach, and being peaceful in nature. They wish to maintain a healthy and attached relationship. Conscientiousness- People with conscientious personalities are found to be more responsible with good organizing quality. They have a highly guarded mindset with controlled behavior and are also mindful of their actions. Emotional Stability- An emotionally stable person can adapt to any circumstances and is found to deal with anger issues or any other negative emotional situations. Openness to experience- A person with an openness to experience personality is always eager to learn new things. Also, they were found to be highly intellectual with immense curiosity and creativity.  Wrapping up the overview of personality development and diving more into the content. Why personality development must be introduced at a young age? Nobody in this world possesses a personality by birth. There are chances of transferring certain traits through genetics, but they are indeed changeable. The young generation so-called Gen- Z falls under the age gap of 9 – 24 years. During the Gen-Z period, kids experience various hormonal changes resulting in experiencing different types of emotions. So, Personality development has to be introduced to kids to shape their emotions and changes to be productive in their teenage years.  On the other factor, introducing soft skills and personality development at a young age is easier than teaching for an adult. Adults have a built-up personality that may be hard to alter even through training or therapies.  In addition to that, during teenage, kids who have undergone personality development deal with their romantic relationships much healthier. On the other hand, in lacking quality personality, relationships might always be trouble.  How personality development helps the education of the kids? Introducing personality development to your child helps to achieve certain soft skills such as ●       Creative Thinking ●       Interpersonal skills ●       Self-confidence ●       Self-motivation ●       Problem-solving ●       Decision making ●       Leadership ●       Empathy ●       Management ●       Teamwork, etc. Implementing these soft skills is itself a road to success. Considering these skills, interpersonal skills include language fluency, public speaking, reading, presentation skills, and group discussion. With these qualities, your kid will be able to bypass any interactive exams with fewer difficulties.   With the management skills, your kid can achieve time management as well as handle emotions such as stress and anger. This helps your child to be focused and learn quicker. By introducing your kid to Self-confidence and self-motivation through personality development, the kid has sufficient self-esteem and courage to face the exams. Also, these kids proved to have lesser stage fear.  How Personality development assists the future of the kids? Having a developed personality not alone helps your kid’s education, but also sets the pillar of the child’s life. People attract or hold back at people by judging their personalities. Thus, the lessons which are imprinted in the personality of children will always be supportive.  Your kid might experience all these circumstances in the lifetime, ●       Relationships ●       Jobs ●       Dreams ●       Travel ●       Parenting, etc. To have a thriving life in all these phases, an upright personality development must have been introduced at a young age. Achieving dreams and career Firstly, the induced self-motivation and an optimistic character would always shoulder your kid when he/she wants a dream job or to achieve dreams. Then, the enriched creativity through personality development helps the way to achieve the goals.  Also, it ensures the personal growth of the kid during the life phases. Healthy Relationships When it comes to relationships, you can see there are very few long-term healthy relationships nowadays. Lack of personality development at a young age is the…

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8 Questions you can ask a theist without getting into an argument

You may become an atheist for various reasons. One, you might go through a lot and you might conclude that God isn’t real. Also, you might not be interested in religious beliefs or any other factors that made you into an atheist. With this absolute certainty of denial of God, atheists always get excited to question theists or God believers.   So, here are a few questions you could ask theists without getting into an argument. This article also answers the questions from certain perspectives. Even if you are a theist who needs answers to questions that keep you awake at night, this article may be for you.   It is always good to share opinions with people, it develops knowledge and wisdom on the matter of the subject. However, when sharing opinions, if it turns into an argument or quarrel, it is always unhealthy. Especially while sharing knowledge through questioning one’s beliefs, people could be vulnerable and may pull you into an argument. Here are a few questions to ask a theist that might not draw you into a quarrel. While asking, make sure your approach is polite and willing to learn things from them. During this conversation, there are possibilities of theists questioning you about the perspectives of atheists as well. In case, if you need any clarification or to share your point of view, feel free to comment below.   1. Do theists think atheists hate God?   Starting with the lenient question to ask a theist, many theists do believe that atheists hate God. Few theists who had got into an argument with an atheist before would surely say that the atheists hate God. This is because some atheists desperately want to break the beliefs of others. Some theists know the fact that a good atheist just denies the existence of any omnipotent life and consider the beliefs as myths. Anyhow, some theists claim that atheists’ disbelief in anything is the root of their hatred for God. However, as the well-known spiritual guru, Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev says, “Both atheists and theists believe in something they do not know” Atheists and theists are the same kind of people, pretending to be different. Both of them believe something they do not know. #SadhguruQuotes — Sadhguru (@SadhguruJV) May 28, 2019   2. Why do rituals matter to Theists?   Rituals are the way of worshipping God in the form of activities, repeated mantras, postures, etc. Apart from a simple way of praying to God, the religious people believe that rituals get them further closer to God. Additionally, theists believe that the rituals teach us how, why and the discipline to pray to God. Thus, rituals are indeed valued by the religious people.   In addition to that, rituals give religious people confidence that God will take care of them hearing their valuable wishes. So, it helps them to move on with their life confidently.   3. Can God answer for the deaths of innocents?   This is the question to ask a theist that every atheist is longing for. As religions would say, the Gods are the protectors and inspirers for humans. Then, “why would he let innocent people, kids, animals die?” will be the question from the atheist side. According to religious beliefs, God doesn’t have a concern or take responsibility for people’s death. God remains detached from humans and functions the vastly spread universe. The creator acts as a nature that functions detached from human beings or other lives. So, the death or calamity that happens in this world is uncontrollable and inevitable. You can resemble this from the sayings of Lord Vishnu from Bhagavad Gita While resorting to Prakriti, “Nature is my own power I send forth, again and again, These multitudes of beings that do not have freedom, Owing to Nature’s sway over them, These activities do not bind me in any way because I remain detached and unconcerned in their midst”   4. Why do theists care about the afterlife?   On the point of myths that were created for good, the myth of the afterlife may be created for the people who feared death and were obsessed with living forever. On the other hand, the belief in the afterlife holds the people to not go in a wrong way and it guides them to do good in regards to getting into a good afterlife, say heaven. People always seek results for their actions in their life, only a very few care for others without expecting anything in return. To acknowledge such people and their good deeds, heaven is created. Hell is created for the people who interact with malicious actions that hurt others. These are the reasons why theists care and give more attention to the afterlife more.   5. Why do bad people have luxurious life than good ones?   Evil and corrupted bad people do not have a luxurious life, they pretend to have them. In other words, bad people’s life is full of facade and drama. They gain all this wealth and power only to gain control over others. At last, they wouldn’t have the fruit of luxury even if they had everything. For instance, according to the bible Mark 7:21-22 “For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness.” This defines evil people. They are filled with desires and are soulless. They desire to get something with their power but never get satisfied. Their hollow minds will never get filled even if they possess everything.  So, as the quote from the bible forthrightly mentioned in Isaiah 48:22 that, “There is no peace,” says the Lord, “for the wicked.”   6. Why can’t God exterminate evil?   If God is an omnipotent who have the power to create and destroy, then why can’t he just vanish the evil from its existence? If God can’t, does that mean that evil is superior to God?…

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9 Questions you should ask an atheist without provoking

Nowadays, atheists often confront theists with facts, scientific explanations, and theories. Their complete disapproval of the existence of God may sometimes make sense. But, theists have their perspectives on God through the sayings from religions. So, when theists try to reason with an atheist, a quarrel begins. Often you can find atheists get rough with theists.   This is because most atheists possess high esteem of their intellectual for being an atheist. So, this is the time for theists to ask an atheist with reasonable questions that can never get you into a fight.   You can find various types of personalities in a group, they may be either good or bad. You can always find both types of people everywhere. This applies to theists and atheists too. There are toxic people in both who try to force their consent on other people. So, it’s better to avoid asking an atheist with a toxic personality. In the case of theists, some people used to force religion and beliefs on others. Sometimes, they use the people’s vulnerability to change them to their side of religion. On the other hand, some atheists pretend to have higher intelligence than any other humans. They imagine that denial of God’s existence makes them superior, which is not. Understanding this toxic side, you should control yourself from provoking with them. Ask the questions that are mentioned in this article to people who can always have a healthy conversation with others. Be ready to hear questions from atheists too. In such a way, we could know others’ points of view. Also, feel free to mention the questions you have in the comments. 1. What do atheists think about unanswered questions? Atheists simply try to answer these questions by saying “either unanswered questions will be answered later or it must be just a coincidence”. But it isn’t possible to determine everything as a coincidence, right? For instance, in this vastly spread universe and solar system, why would earth alone have the atmosphere opt for living beings? In the countless number of living beings, as science says, just one species has evolved to have 6 senses. Like this, we can dump more examples to question the coincidence. 2. Why do atheists choose to be an atheist? The majority of atheists choose to not believe in God for two main reasons. Due to bad experiences in the past that made them give up on God’s existence. Acknowledging the scientific facts and accepting them. Following the trend of being an atheist makes them intellectual So, if you come across people who say being an atheist is what makes them intellectual, it is probably time to end that conversation right away. They only want to show off their decision for being an atheist to others without any particular reason. Maybe, if such people experience something bad in their life, they would either pray to God or blame God for that. A true atheist would never blame God, they would accept the reality as the way it was as they don’t believe in God bringing them goods or misfortune. 3. Do atheists read religious books before becoming atheists? Mostly not, atheists are mostly demotivated to read religious books. They may not know what these books are up to or consider reading them a waste of time. The religious books are written in a way how the world works and to teach life morals. Sometimes, they are interpreted as stories. In an exceptional case, some people do read these books and understand things from a different perspective and choose to be an atheist. Being a theist and atheist is one’s own choice through their perspectives. No one can object to that. 4. If atheists don’t consider the afterlife in hell, would they do whatever they want? In fact, it is what atheists want. The freedom of not binding into some religious beliefs and fear them. On the negative side, this could lead people to choose the wrong path and hurt people consciously. However, a well-acknowledged atheist is bound with good morals and life ethics as most atheists do. They know that’s the way to have a happy life. Being empathetic, caring for others, following morals, setting boundaries, etc., are the basic qualities every human must-have. 5. Do atheists hate God? This is the question to ask an atheist to easily identify their intention for being an atheist. If they say “No” and continue to say “I don’t believe in god in the first place”, he must be an atheist with reason. However, if “yes” was an answer, they must be bragging about being an atheist with no reason at all. A good atheist would never believe in an omnipotent who can control their lives. 6. Do atheists have spirituality as theists? Of course, atheists possess spirituality, emotions, and morals as theists do. Also, they are good at helping others, understanding people’s feelings, etc. They have the freedom to choose for what they are. In denying both God and Evil’s existence, they don’t show any resistance in coming forward to help others. Atheists believe in humanity more than the existence of God. 7. What triggers atheists to provoke theists? Atheists really get triggered when theists force people to follow their religion and regulations. Mainly when normal people are forced into superstitious beliefs and rituals, atheists do want to question them. In India, the cultural beliefs followed by them are affecting people especially women. A century before, most widows of India were killed in the name of culture. Till now, the majority of these practices are followed in the name of culture and religion. The inability to question these by other theists triggers the atheists often. 8. Do atheists appreciate religious beliefs? Atheists always tend to appreciate others’ religious beliefs and culture only if those beliefs favor the human community. When such practices get out of hand to harm or force others to their beliefs, they choose not to appreciate them. 9. Why do atheists…

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Atheists and Theists – Who has a meaningful life?

Humans are independent and have the freedom to make their own choices in their life. The way you want to live and pursue your goals are meant to be decided by yourself. This also applies in determining your personality, habits, beliefs, etc. Coming to beliefs, some people believe in God’s existence, and others don’t. They are known to be atheists and theists. Certain people have different statements or perspectives for beliefs such as agnostics and Gnostics people. However, let’s see about the majorities i.e., atheists and theists, and their way of life.   Theists are also known as God believers who completely accept the existence of God. They worship, praise, and live under the morals that God proposed. Theists are not just Christians, people who believe in God from any religious background would fit in. On the other hand, atheists do not believe in God and tend to state the conspiracies scientifically. Atheists believe in the evolution of humanity and view religion as a myth or a fantasy that evolved during that. The irrelevancies between the atheists and theists themselves differ in their way of living. Anyways, every person has to co-exist in this world to survive, grow and achieve even though the ideology differs. What is the population of Atheists and Theists? As per certain research, the population of atheists has begun to grow for the past decade. 10% of adults in the United States claimed to be atheists whereas 1 in five people does not believe in God from the US. In Europe, the stats are little escalated and is noted as over 15% of people are atheists. To ensure this, a simple quick poll on Instagram was conducted by this website gives a peculiar result. From the people of South Asia aged from 18 – 28, with more than 200 votes, the poll ended with a fractional difference. This proves that there is a potential increase of atheists in society. There is both yin and yang of being an atheist and theist, however, there must be some hidden reason for this considerable growth of atheists compared to theists. So, let’s look into what advantages that people could see being atheists and theists What does a good life mean for theists? Theists believe that God is the ultimate creator of this world. “Humanity emerged from the birth of Adam and Eve”, stated Christians. This does not mean that theists never believe in science, they do, but never refuse God’s existence. According to theists, a good life must be filled with harmony, kindness, and spirituality. Being a humble person to the superior God is the way to attain spirituality. In most cases, theists spend their time doing rituals and worshipping God. Believers thank the superior for this life and also ask for favor believing the god could help them. Theists believe that God has three main functions (duties) in this universe. Based on the Hindu beliefs, the authority of the god is to create beings, protect and destroy. The creator Brahma, the protector Vishnu, and the destroyer Shiva. This itself may raise many questions among atheists. For example, if he destroys life, God must be evil, isn’t it? Anyways, theists have their way of explanation for literally everything. What are the benefits of being a Theist? The benefits you could attain from being a theist are Spiritual power, hope, and Accepting reality. You can attain these qualities being an atheist too, but it is easy to develop these personalities within believers. Why are theists more spiritual? The God believers tend to be more spiritual as they believe in another force that always protects them. This creates an optimistic view within them that drives them to approach life confidently. The spiritual beliefs such as the “god watches us all” keep them disciplined and have good morals. The theists used to spiritually heal quicker from the problems naturally. Cons: On the contrary, some people are toxic and hurt people who are theists. They claim to be religious to catalog their traits in society. Such personalities do not have the spirituality to live a good life. These personas must be filtered not only by the theist but everyone. Why are theists hopeful? Whatever the circumstances, the majority of the theists tend to be buoyant in life. They are propitious as they have a high sense of hope. It looks like they stick to the phrase “Jesus saves you” and face life. When a bad thing happens, theists believe in “where there is shadow, there is light”. This generates the hope to strive subsequently to believe for the good in the future. Cons: On other hand, theists fall right into superstitious beliefs in search of hope. They do superstitious rituals to attain good things quicker. Hope or any good things cannot be attained externally. Believing in good and working hard for that gives the result. Why are theists good at accepting reality? Theists accept every happening in the surroundings as the actions of God. They believe in karma which will repay the people who hurt them. The belief of karma itself helps them to accept reality and heal with the help of spiritual personality. Believers accept that the actions of God have specific reasons behind them as the Lord Vishnu sayings,  “Everything that happened is good, Things that are happening is good, and Things that are about to happen is also good” Cons: Accepting reality is always good when you learn and change from it. Else, sticking to the actions that hurt you or others will always bring the same results. What does a good life mean for atheists? Atheists see things from a scientific perspective. Even though there are instances that haven’t been proved, they resist believing in omnipotent and decide to wait for scientific answers. Atheists expect their life to be prosperous with freedom and happiness. They refuse to believe that their life is being governed and guided by omnipotent. Although atheists do not show interest in such beliefs, they…

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What are the benefits you get after an existential crisis?

Existential Crisis is a stage everyone goes through at certain points in their lives. This negative feeling may hit you at times when you are going through some hardships. In those times, your feelings may hike up and will lead you to overthink and question your existence. However, as a matter of perspective, overcoming this feeling has some benefits after an existential crisis. So, let’s look into this article to know more about them.   It is a dreadful feeling to have an existential crisis. It doesn’t come suddenly, you may experience it while all of your hardships get stacked up and thrown at a time. You will get highly stressed, depressed, and overthink too much. The existential crisis can be caused due to various factors. But at some point, you have to decide whether to get trapped in it or get out of it and gain some benefits after an existential crisis. Trapping in an existential crisis may lead to losing hope in life and raise suicidal thoughts to one. In another case, you can process through it and get rid of an existential crisis. Optimistically speaking, an existential crisis isn’t an illness or symptoms of anything. It is a phase everyone goes through in life. So, through processing, you can learn a lot from it. Learning helps to process and obtain these benefits after an existential crisis  1. Awareness of any situation The first benefit after an existential crisis is a golden one. If you have awareness of any situation you have been put in, you can easily escape or get through it. The only thing that gives you this much awareness is overthinking. As an overthinker, you can easily guess the possibilities of things that are about to happen.  Not only escape out from the situation, but you can also use the situation to your advantage. In such a way, you will be the smartest person in a crowd. Cheers! 2. Perspective Without a perspective for a statement, situation, or sequence of matters, you cannot come up with a judgment or a decision. Perspective comes in two ways, positive or negative. Even though optimistic thinking is a good thing, sometimes you have to think on both sides. You will only attain this benefit after an existential crisis. Some of you were never able to see the things that hurt you. In the case of Indian women, the factors that hurt them are either hidden or not been aware of. So, going through an existential crisis will help you to get your perspective straight and decide “Do and Don’ts”. 3. Decision Making Once you have gone through the existential crisis, a clear thought will arise and you will be ready to face things that are yet to come at you. And additionally, your improved decision-making skills after the existential crisis are going to help you. You cannot get over an existential crisis without deciding what to do in a situation. Thus, your ability to decide gets increases naturally after that.  You won’t always be a nice person, even if someone tries to humiliate you. Knowing the situation, you are able to decide and say “yes or no” straight at them. 4. Focusing the Priorities Commonly, one will always get mature to some extent. So, you will stop worrying about the things bothering you and act on them. This makes you prioritize things that matter and work for them. This is a benefit after an existential crisis that improves your life to a better one. If you prioritize your dream, job, family, etc., dedicate yourself to what you love.   In such a way, you won’t feel regretful or stressed about any situation. So, prioritize what you love and commit to it. Want to vent your experiences with someone? Register here and connect with a listener who wishes to lend you an ear. 5. Never Give Up When you start focusing on the priorities, all the above benefits you have attained after the existential crisis will provide you with enough willpower. You know that you will regret things and fall back into an existential crisis if you didn’t put in enough work. So, a never-give-up attitude grows up in you. You strive to achieve things rather than feeling now.  With this attitude, you also gain a strong dedication and determination to reach your goals. Conclusion To phrase it easily, the overall benefit you receive after an existential crisis is Growth. In the end, you will be mature enough to handle your hardships and struggles. Only optimistic thinkers can learn from the things they are going through and acquire the benefits. So, try to think positively always and share your knowledge and experiences with us while or after going through it.  FAQs Q1. Can an existential crisis be a good thing? Optimistically yes, you can learn certain things while going through an existential crisis and acquire some benefits from it. Q2. What are the benefits we get after an existential crisis? There are chances to get these benefits after an existential crisis, Awareness Perspective Decision making  Priorities Never Give up

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Define Existential crisis, effects, factors and ways to overcome it

An existential crisis can be defined as a dreadful feeling of one’s questioning themselves about the reason for their existence in this world. However, the existential crisis definition is a combination of many factors that are mentioned in this article.   This anguished feeling may be caused due to psychological trauma, separation, divorce, major loss, the death of a loved one, a life-threatening experience, psychoactive drug use, etc. You could have heard about this term from movies & memes as a joke and might not contemplate about that. However, it should be given attention to make people aware of this.     You can witness people say that “I’m depressed and caught in existential crisis after watching this movie/series” with a smirk on their faces as they are being proud of it. It isn’t simple as that. People who have gone through an existential crisis wouldn’t belittle this feeling and make fun of the definition “Existential Crisis“. They might have suffered and processed through it. Some people grasp the term existential crisis without a slight knowledge or experience of how it would feel like.  Certain people expose themselves as someone who is experiencing an existential crisis for trivial reasons. On contrary, it’s a bit serious issue that we should talk about, share, and bring awareness about it. One cannot state the existential crisis definition without considering its effects and causes. Effects and Cause   This is a crucial thing that we should bring to notice. An existential crisis could affect one’s mental health and state of being a good person. The major factor that causes you to experience an Existential crisis is Loneliness Lack of acknowledgment Trauma/ abuse Losing Hope   Loneliness   Existential crisis mostly grows in you when you are alone. Being lonely makes you overthink things and cause you to feel down heartened as things in this world doesn’t go along as you thought it would be. This may look like the world does not want you.   Lack of Acknowledgement   An existential crisis could happen when people inconsiderately avoid acknowledging us and value our presence. This gives us a stressful vibe that can’t be held for long. You may look high at others and lower yourself. In other words, your self-esteem and self-confidence become low. You feel disorientated and despised of yourself. Trauma or Abuse   In this society, finding personas who are disheartening, liars, cowards, narcissists, and non-empathetic have become common. You may feel useless and completely lost when people you love won’t value your opinion, disrespects you, leave you, hurt and try to manipulate you. The persons maybe your loved ones, friends, and even your parents that hurt you. Some could also have suffered from domestic violence. These cause traumatic experiences which then breeds trust issues within us. Then it will lead you to fall into the feeling of existential crisis. Want to vent your experiences with someone? Register here and connect with a listener who wishes to lend you an ear. Losing Hope   The main cause of experiencing the existential crisis is that you start losing what kept you going healthy and energetic throughout your life. You can lose feelings, confidence, self-love, energy, etc, but the main reason for one to catch an existential crisis is when one starts losing hope in others. As from the existential crisis definition, you will start to question your presence in this world once you lose hope. Hope is an inevitable thing that keeps our spirit up to have a social link with others. Hope gives you confidence, it is what makes us expect kind, care, and empathetic behaviors from others. Once we lose hope, we start to give up on people around us as they never show any kind of gratitude, love & care to us for what we have done for them. Rise and Shine   Each and Everyone here faces an existential crisis at some point in their lifetime. Some get lost in that and some come out with absolute clarity of what they went through in the past and the way the future is going to be. Certain people lose hope in their life, love, and everything. But we shouldn’t be like that, this life is a beautiful thing that is uncontrollable and filled with uncertainties, and people around you are a mixture of good, bad, and innocents. You can’t change people, they change if they wanted to. Not everyone can rid of toxic people but can resist them not interfere in your life by having boundaries around them. One must thoroughly understand the existential crisis definition to process it.   Ways to avoid an existential crisis   If you are experiencing an existential crisis, it must be a hard time for you. You can dazzle through these dark times by following certain things. Self-love Empathizing good people Socializing Self-love   Firstly, you can find self-love i.e., you should acknowledge yourself for your actions and be proud of what good deeds you had done. Once you attained self-love, you will be filled up with self-confidence and self-worth. You won’t seek attention, starve for acknowledgment or depend on others. Kindness   Secondly, Be kind to people. Yes, you have always been kind and ended up being here, but that doesn’t make being kind is wrong. This time, be kind to people only who are kind to others as well. That doesn’t mean you should be rude to toxic people. If you are being rude, It will be easy to gaslight you even if you’re reacting to their venomous behavior. So, ignoring and having boundaries around toxic people is the best way. Be kind to innocents like kids and other living beings. Have a pet or adopt one, it grows your empathy for others. Help people without any expectations. Carrying hatred and revenge against someone destroys your sanity, so forgive people who have done you wrong. But never forget what they have done to you. Ghost them if possible and never give…

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