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How is Dating Someone Who Was Abused by a Narcissist?

Dante012 mins

Congratulations! You’re dating someone who was abused by a narcissist, a narc survivor. That means their past love story was less of a fairy tale and more of a psychological thriller where the villain gaslighted, manipulated, and drained every ounce of self-worth from them. Now, here you are, trying to be the wonderful person who loves them right. But dating someone who was abused by a narcissist is not like your average relationship. It’s a whole different playing field.  You’re going to encounter emotional triggers, trust issues, and moments where they act like you just stabbed them in the heart—when all you did was forget to text back. Sounds overwhelming? Well, keep reading because this isn’t about giving you a pep talk on how to ‘fix’ them (you can’t). This is about understanding the reality of loving someone who has been through emotional warfare.   Understanding the Aftermath of Narcissistic Abuse Dating someone who was abused by a narcissist is like loving a wounded warrior—challenging, but patience and understanding can make all the difference. 1. What Narcissistic Abuse Does to a Person Before you start feeling frustrated by their reactions, let’s talk about what they’ve been through.  A narcissistic partner doesn’t just break someone’s heart; they dismantle their sense of self. The abuse isn’t just physical or verbal—it’s psychological, designed to make the victim question their own reality. Gaslighting: Their ex made them feel like they were ‘crazy’ for reacting to manipulation and lies. Control and Isolation: They may have been cut off from friends and family. Rollercoaster of Love and Neglect: One day they were the most adored person on earth, the next they were treated like garbage. Shattered Self-Worth: They were led to believe they were never good enough. According to research, survivors of narcissistic abuse often experience symptoms similar to PTSD from narcissism, including hypervigilance, extreme anxiety, and difficulty trusting others. So, when they react strongly to something seemingly minor, it’s not about you—it’s about their trauma.   Challenges in dating someone who was abused by a narcissist 1. The Constant Apologizing and Self-Doubt You’ll notice they say “sorry” a lot—like, for things they didn’t even do. They’re used to apologizing for existing. Their ex conditioned them to believe they were always in the wrong, so now they struggle to believe they’re worthy of love.   2. Trust Issues That Aren’t About You They might assume you have hidden motives, not because you’ve given them a reason, but because their last relationship was built on deceit. It’s like touching a hot stove once—you don’t easily forget the burn. Even when you prove your honesty, they may still feel uneasy because trust isn’t just given—it’s rebuilt.   3. Overanalyzing Everything You Say and Do You casually mention an ex? They spiral into a mental battle, wondering if they’re being compared. You get quiet for a bit? They’re sure you’re mad at them. They were trained to analyze their partner’s every mood shift because that’s how they survived with a narcissist.   4. They Might Push You Away Just to Feel in Control This part stings. Sometimes they’ll test you by pulling away emotionally or shutting down, expecting you to leave. Why? Because their ex conditioned them to expect abandonment. It’s not a reflection of how they feel about you—it’s a defense mechanism.   5. Sensitivity to Normal Relationship Conflicts Arguments in any relationship are normal, but for them, it might feel catastrophic. A small disagreement may trigger past trauma, making them retreat, over-apologize, or assume the worst. It’s important to recognize when their reaction is coming from past wounds rather than the present situation.   6. Strict Boundaries That May Feel Rigid Some survivors have healed but set strict, sometimes extreme boundaries to protect themselves. While boundaries are essential, they can sometimes make a relationship feel emotionally distant or rigid. Understanding their need for control over their emotional space is key, but so is ensuring a balance that works for both of you.   7. Potential Narcissistic Traits of Their Own Surprisingly, some survivors may adopt narcissistic tendencies as a learned defense mechanism. They might display manipulative behaviors, have difficulty accepting criticism, or struggle with emotional regulation. While this doesn’t mean they’re narcissists, it does mean that their trauma has shaped certain responses that can be challenging in a healthy relationship. Read: Cheating Patterns of Covert Narcissists   How to Date a Narcissist Survivor Without Losing Your Mind 1. Validate, Don’t Fix They don’t need a hero, just someone who acknowledges their pain without trying to erase it. Saying, “That sounds really painful, I’m so sorry you went through that,” is far more comforting than, “You need to move on.” 2. Be Patient with Their Healing Process Their healing isn’t linear. Some days they’ll be fine, and others they’ll feel like they’re back at square one. It’s frustrating, but healing from narcissistic abuse is like recovering from an invisible wound. Give them time. 3. Boundaries Are Key—For Both of You They might struggle with setting boundaries because they weren’t allowed to have them before. Encourage them to express their needs, but also maintain your own. Just because they’ve been through trauma doesn’t mean they can treat you poorly either. Healthy relationships require mutual respect. 4. Small Reassurances Go a Long Way A simple “I appreciate you,” or “You don’t have to be perfect for me to love you,” can be life-changing for someone who was always told they weren’t enough. 5. They’ll Need Time to Fully Open Up They might not tell you everything right away. Trauma makes people guarded. Instead of pushing, create a safe space where they can share at their own pace.   Is It Worth Dating a Narcissist Survivor? Yes. But only if you’re willing to accept that this relationship will require extra care and patience. You’re not just dating a person—you’re dating their past, their fears, and their efforts to rebuild their trust in love. Are All Narcissists Cheaters? – Give a…

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11 Dysfunctional Things in a Narcissistic Family

Dante016 mins

Picture a family where one or more member dominates and controls everyone else, using emotional abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting tactics to maintain power and control. This is the reality for many individuals raised in a dysfunctional narcissistic family. Just think about how a child grows under such circumstances.  Children of narcissistic parents may be subjected to emotional abuse, neglect, or even physical abuse. They may also be held to unrealistic standards or made to feel responsible for the emotional well-being of their parent. In this article, we will explore some of the key facts about narcissistic families.   Why Narcissistic Families are toxic? Narcissistic families tend to be toxic because they are built around the narcissist’s need for control, validation, and admiration. This results in a family dynamic dysfunctional and may engage in a variety of abusive or neglectful behaviors, while other family members may become enablers or codependents, perpetuating the toxic cycle.  This can lead to long-lasting emotional scars and a sense of isolation and powerlessness for those trapped in the narcissistic family system.   Before getting into the article, we want you to know this platform is created with the motive that you can vent out your emotions through the comment section of the articles you relate to. You can either comment and respond to the people you relate to and also register with Udante if you want to have a private and friendly conversation with us for free.   Dysfunctionalities in a Narcissistic Family Dysfunctionalities in a narcissistic family can include emotional abuse, manipulation, and a lack of healthy boundaries affecting the family members. The resulting family environment is often marked by a lack of trust, emotional instability, and a sense of isolation and powerlessness for those trapped in the system.  The dysfunction in narcissistic families can have a profound impact on the well-being of everyone involved, perpetuating cycles of trauma and abuse across generations. The followings are some of the common and too impacting dysfunctionalities in a narcissistic family.   Lack of emotional bonding Narcissistic families are characterized by a lack of emotional bonding, empathy, and genuine concern for one another. Members of these families often feel isolated and alone. Furthermore, narcissistic parents may treat their children as extensions of themselves rather than as individuals with their own thoughts, feelings, and desires. This leaves children feeling unseen, unheard, and unimportant, leading to issues with self-worth and self-esteem. Overall, a lack of emotional bonding in narcissistic families leads to long-term impacts on children’s mental health and well-being, and it affects their ability to form healthy relationships in the future.   Focus on maintaining the family image The primary focus in narcissistic families is on Maintaining the family image. It is important for narcissists to increase their own sense of self-worth, protect themselves from shame and criticism, and control how others perceive them and their families. Some of their actions on their families are Have a burning desire for admiration and validation from others. They may receive the admiration and validation they strive for by projecting a positive image of their family to the outside world Often the fear of being seen as flawed or imperfect triggers feelings of shame and insecurity. By presenting a perfect image of their family, they avoid feeling shame or embarrassment. By maintaining the family image, they have strong control over how others perceive them and their family, as well as ensure that family members behave in ways that reflect well on the family. Make members of the family present a facade of perfection to the outside world, even if things are far from perfect at home.                                                                                                 Children are seen as extensions of the parent Children in narcissistic families are usually understood as extensions of their parents. Narcissistic parents see their children as a means of validating their own self-worth and meeting their own needs for attention, admiration, or control. They expect their children to excel in areas that they value or their unfulfilled dreams and aspirations. This leads to a child choosing to believe that they are only valued for what they can do or achieve, rather than for who they are as individuals. They may feel pressured to meet their parents’ expectations, regardless of their own interests, needs, or desires. As a result, children in narcissistic families may struggle with developing a healthy sense of self and may experience feelings of shame, guilt, or unworthiness.   Children are objectified In narcissistic families, children are often objectified by their parents or other family members. Objectification is when a person is treated as an object or a thing, rather than as an individual with feelings, needs, and desires.  The child’s own desires, feelings, and needs may be ignored or dismissed. This incredibly damages a child’s emotional and psychological well-being. In some cases, narcissistic parents may sexualize or treat their children inappropriately. Making sexual comments or jokes, exposing their children to sexual content, or even engaging in sexual behavior with their children are all examples of this. For a child, this type of objectification can be extremely damaging and traumatic which can even lead to PTSD due to narcissists.   Emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and guilt Narcissistic family members may use emotional manipulation tactics such as guilt-tripping, shaming, or threatening to control and manipulate the emotions and behaviors of their family members, leaving the victims feeling powerless and confused. The narcissists may use gaslighting to actively distort or deny reality to make their family members doubt their own perceptions and experiences, which can lead to the victim feeling confused, anxious, and doubting their own sanity. Narcissistic individuals may use guilt to manipulate and control their family members, making them feel responsible for the narcissist’s emotions or actions, leading to constant feelings of burden and responsibility, even when the victim has done nothing wrong.   Punishment for expressing opinions, emotions, or desires It is not uncommon for family members to be punished or face negative consequences for expressing their opinions, emotions, or desires.  Using tactics such…

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35 Narcissistic Red flags Checklist

Dante041 mins

Identifying the narcissist at an earlier stage is not something that always happens. Survivors wish they knew about the red flags of the narcissist earlier and avoided the narcissist. But it isn’t that easy to find snakes in the forest, isn’t it? This article lists the narcissistic red flags for you to resemble your past, learn in the present, and be ready for the future.    Red flags of a narcissist are often neglected by the people’s ignorance and love for the person. The one who ignores the red flags is the one who gets trapped in an abusive relationship. Since narcissists are masters at manipulating you and hiding their noxious secrets, ignoring the red flags isn’t your fault. Apart from all that, you are now looking for solutions, learning about narcissism, and healing from those abusive experiences. Let’s spread awareness about the narcissistic red flags and help the community avoid narcissists.   What are narcissistic red flags?   For people who wonder what this is, Narcissists cannot hide their true selves forever, and so, within the time being, their behavior will get exposed either by themselves or through the circumstances. Knowing about narcissistic red flags will help you indicate the narcissist far quicker and evade an abusive relationship.     What are the red flags of a narcissist?   We are delving into several red flags you probably encountered before or may experience in the future. So, take note or download the narcissistic red flags checklist given below to refer to it throughout your life.   Just a reminder, if you find any narcissistic red flags here relevant to what you have experienced, feel free to vent it on the comment section. This platform is for you to vent out your emotions. Let’s share our thoughts and help the community.     Note the red flags given in this article, analyze the person, and note it on the checklist if you have doubts like “Am I dating a narcissist?” “Are my parents narcissists?” “Why am I getting traumatic experiences around the people I love?” “Are my friends toxic?”   1. The look of Narc’s friends on you   Narcissists most likely don’t bring their friends to your life. But if they tend to do, the narcissist probably wants to exhibit their socializing skills. On such occasions, narcissists’ friends’ eyes will tell stories about your narc’s past.   It’s not the eyes of the narc’s friends that hate you but surprisingly, they see you in a pitying manner. If you looked closely, you could feel the doubts in their mind, like, “How does she even end up with him?” You know that they knew something about your Narc partner, and that is how the friends of narcissists are.   2. Have very low to zero friends   There are different types of narcissists but possess similar abusive patterns. The only difference is their personality and red flags. The grandiose and malignant narcissists usually have more friend circles to get the center of attention between others. But covert or vulnerable narcissists keep their traits hideous by having no one around them. Such narcissists treat their friends so badly that no one wishes to stick with them.    Even though they claim to have friends, they won’t let you interact with them. If you tried to interact, you could feel that the friends are not even close and rarely even acquaintances.   3. Doesn’t like your friends   Narcissists hate the victim with support. So, they manipulate you to give full attention to them, leaving your friends behind. They often refuse to interact with your friends and project them as toxic ones. Narcissists fear your friends’ questioning eyes and get anxious knowing that you have external support.   4. Double standards for the friends of the opposite sex   Narcissists are very good at triangulating people and playing with their emotions. They intentionally introduce someone of their opposite sex and make you feel jealous. But in your case, you just cannot even introduce a genuine friend of the opposite gender to the narcissist. If that happens, the narcissist will try to project you as a cheater by saying,   “Oh, who’s that guy you are close with? Are you planning on cheating me?” “You are flirting with her like she’s your girlfriend.”   Narcissists do this as they want them to be the only opposite gender you must rely on. This is one of the crucial narcissistic red flags to notice; otherwise, they would spoil your whole friend circle of yours.  Read: Are Cheaters Narcissists? 5. Never hangouts with your people   If you are in a relationship, you are probably dreaming of a future with your partner, and that’s what love is. But narcissists do not see any future with you despite seeing you as a controlling toy. So, engaging with your people can lead to trouble in the future. To avoid this, narcissists avoid hanging out with people close to you, especially your family.   So remember this red flag, One who is not ready to meet your people does not wish your life to be good either.   6. Dislikes anything you like   When you start dating a narcissist, it looks like everything goes as you intend to be. They resonate with whatever you like and project it as you both have a lot in common. But in time, the red flag will appear right in front of you. The narcissist will always dislike anything you like; for example, if you like a popular show and so does everyone, the narcissist won’t.   The narcissist will ask you to change your perceptions to what they like; otherwise, they refuse to spend time with you. This act of the narcissist is to test their control over you, especially at the beginning of the abuse. (Mention what your narcissist likes in you at first but dislikes later in the comments).   7. Monologues about themselves   Narcissists can hide anything…

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How to Support Children of Narcissistic Parents?

Dante014 mins

If you are a parent who adopted a child or is divorced and raising the child separately or a teacher who looks out for the student who exhibits odd behaviors as a result of previous experiences with narcissistic parents, this article is for you. Note some crucial points that help to support and guide a child who was raised by narcissistic parents.   Narcissism manifests into our life on various occasions like friendships, relationships, workplaces, politics, and families. But in a Kid’s life, the parents play a major role in introducing narcissism into their lives. The ways the kids experience narcissism through their parents are: over validation, neglect, gaslights, manipulation, abuse, blameshifts, comparison, and triangulation. So, supporting a child raised by a narcissistic parent needs a strong awareness of narcissism, studying the ways to guide them, and executing them right.   If you are afraid that the kid of the narcissistic parent might also be a narcissist, here is some good news for you. According to psychologists, narcissistic traits are present in children raised by narcissistic parents, but the personality develops and becomes a disorder only after the age of 18, sometimes longer.   So, with a proper amount of guidance, empathy, and love, one can support a child to heal from his/her trauma, leading them to a normal life.   Guide to supporting a child of narcissistic parents   How to support a child raised by a narcissist? To support and guide the kid who was raised by a narcissistic parent, a well-researched understanding of narcissism and certain good practices are required to curb the narcissistic traits radiating in them. So, during the mission to support the child raised by the narcissistic parent, Restrain the sense of entitlement Construct boundaries and restrictions Don’t criticize the narcissistic parent Be a calm parent Do not give up on them Limit the interaction with the narcissist Teach them empathy Give freedom to take decisions Train Personality development skill Finally, be ready to let them go on their own are the ways to support a child to heal from the trauma bond with the narcissistic parent.   Restrain the sense of entitlement   It is common to see narcissistic traits in children of narcissistic parents, especially the state of feeling entitled. The child may get overvalued by hiding their shame if they are the golden child to the parents. The kid might seem to have high self-esteem and look down on others including you. Such children find it hard to adapt to situations and act rude to others to feel entitled.   So, be frank about the rude behavior and bullies in a gentle manner, and teach the child that he/she is not special and is the same as other kids.   Construct boundaries and restrictions   Set limits to the child to not cross it and discipline them in good habits, for e.g., limit the financial expenses, do not let them disrespect you, etc. Making them respect your boundaries helps them to set boundaries for themselves.   Don’t criticize the Narcissistic Parent in front of the child   You probably hate the narcissistic parent that leaves the child behind, but it is not advisable to criticize the narcissist in front of the child. Although the narcissist was being hurtful to the child, the child still may love the parent only for the good times he/she had with the narcissist during the manipulation and love bombing phases.   The innocent child is not aware of the narcissistic behaviors, and so, talking ill about the narcissist in front of them makes them feel disappointed in you and may lead to a conclusion that you are being rude and heartless.   Be a calm parent   Unlike life with a narcissist, the child must not feel the emotional roller coaster. Instead, the kid must feel safe and peaceful in your presence. To do that, give a calm composure, be liberal to their opinions, always listen to them, and give suggestions rather than giving orders. This makes them feel comfortable, be open about their feelings, and wish to stay with you.   Do not give up on them   At the moment, the child may feel like he/she lost everything in their life after their narcissistic parents. So, a sudden love and care from your side may feel fake and temporary. So, they try to push your limits to see your true face as like their previous narcissistic parent. Such kids need constant love and care from your side to prove to them you are different. So, get a hold of this idea and do not give up on them. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you. Limit the interaction with the narcissistic parent   Not everyone can go no contact with the narcissist, some are bound by the law and things. So, try to limit the interaction between the narcissist and the child, without being violent. The narcissist one who threw away the victims will always come back playing the victim card. You may not be the one who falls for it, but the innocent child does. So, limit the interaction as much as possible. The narcissist will try to breach the limit sometimes which should be taken immediately with legal actions.    Teach them Empathy   Narcissists lack empathy and neglect to understand human emotions. If such traits are found in the child, show unconditional love, be cheerful around them, and do not hide your emotions with them. Express the sadness, love, happiness, upset, and the reason behind them. Make sure they acknowledge your emotions. Verbalizing your feelings helps them to understand your emotions, as a result, the child will develop good communication with you and start expressing their emotions too.    You might have witnessed the kids of narcissists being rude…

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Life of Children with Narcissistic Parents

Dante016 mins

A child under the parenting of narcissists goes through a lot emotionally and physically. Any kid is less likely to know or recognize the toxicity of their parents and tends to experience pain, self-doubts, gaslights, abuse, etc., throughout their childhood. Now, let’s see how these children raised by narcissistic parents evolve as a character in the future.   Parenting plays a vital role in personality development for a kid to set a solid character in the next phase of their lives. Countless studies are here to prove the relationship between parenting and a kid’s character development. It’s what decides how the child evolves to become a virtuous person or not. Children of narcissistic parents, on the other hand, have a difficult time growing up and are more likely to get PTSD or become narcissists themselves.   It must be hurtful to see children possessing narcissistic behaviors, especially from their parents. The malicious traits will be inherited by the child either as a defensive method or as an admiration. However, not all children of narcissistic parents will become a narcissist but will exhibit some traits and patterns of narcissists.   Although most of the children who were raised by narcissists will have maladaptive traits, some survivors evolve within to become virtuous characters too. So, delve into the article to know more about how these children of narcissistic parents will transform to be in the future.   How do narcissistic parents want their children to be?   Even if they are their children, the narcissist will always look down on other people and strive to manipulate or control them to feel entitled. A narcissistic parent will treat their child in such a way that the child will feel emotionally empty and find it difficult to be stimulated. In the hands of narcissists, the child is unlikely to experience true love and affection.   In reality, the child may be harmed psychologically, physically, and emotionally, and may grow to be submissive to their toxic parents, which is exactly what the narcissist desires.   Narcissistic parents want their children to be submissive, give validation, and meet up with their needs and expectations while having no self-worth or boundaries of their own. If the children try to act on their wishes, the narcissistic parent will become enraged and abusive as a result of their refusal to surrender to them.   How do children of narcissists become in the future?   In constant exposure to the traits of narcissistic parents, a child will probably experience post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxieties, self-doubts, trust issues, and others.  This causes the child to become lonely, co-dependent, insecure, arrogant, rebellious, or even a narcissist as a survival tactic against narcissistic parents.   The type of narcissist with whom the child grew up has an impact on their change. The character of a child is defined by the features that he or she recognizes and learns from his or her parents in order to survive the abuse.   Know about: How narcissism comes into a Kid’s life?   Lonely Soul   When narcissistic parents demand validation from their children, they seek immediate attention from them, causing the children to neglect their needs. This significantly depletes their self-importance and as a result, they have low self-confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem.   The children of narcissistic parents will grow up in a competitive mode and are often trapped in a triangulation between either the siblings or another parent. They can never let you share love or affection with them and trap you in the triangulation to meet their needs.   Furthermore, narcissists will refuse to provide credit for the child’s accomplishments and may even put the child’s goals on hold in order to keep the youngster emotionally imprisoned. This makes the child feel suffocated and neglected for wanting to be happy about his/her accomplishments. They indeed have the audacity to grab away the kid’s freedom and will probably neglect the kid if he or she does not meet their needs. As a result, the child of narcissistic parents will go solitary, depressed, hopeless, silent, introverted, and miserable. Codependency is equal to submission   The narcissists teach their children to be reliant on them by completing all of the work ahead of time (even if it isn’t required) and then criticizing them for not doing anything. Subsequently, they would never give the freedom to be happy with friends or relations. As a result, the child will become co-dependent and will seek permission before making any modest decisions.   The narcissistic parent will also belittle the hard work, manipulate to divert the kid from achieving, or act dissatisfied just to make the child feel not good enough. Thus the self-doubt-filled child will be pleased or inclined toward the narcissists’ wish to not disappoint them. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you. Insecure and attention-seeking   Narcissists do not instill moral ideals in their children because they are uninterested in personal development. Instead, the narcissist will exaggerate their physical appearance and make the child feel insecure about his/her body.   As a result, the kid will develop a lack of self-confidence in his or her physique, leading to seeking assurance from others. Yes, inflating their physical appearance in front of a child can lead to self-criticizing and feeling insecure. In such a way, the children will often be found engaged with their physical appearance and seek validation for approval.   Arrogant as a Malignant   Some children of narcissistic parents are found to be more extroverted, arrogant, and have inflated self-esteem. They exhibit perfectionism due to their narcissistic parents’ undying expectations and disappointments. This drives more anxiety, leading them to be more arrogant with other people. Such kids are mostly raised by malignant narcissists who are extremely violent and rude towards the child. The child…

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6 Factors that originates narcissism in Kids

Dante019 mins

People diagnosed with narcissism or who show narcissistic traits have malevolent behaviors that harm others and are self-destructive too. Witnessing kids acquire such personalities can be hurtful. Find out the different factors that originate the narcissistic behaviors in innocent kids and adolescents. So, you can avoid consequences before it’s too late.   Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or the narcissistic traits in a person does not pop out suddenly out of nowhere. Instead, these dark triad personality traits of a narcissist are the impact of external factors that are experienced in his/her childhood.   Fortunately, psychologists suggest that narcissism can only be diagnosed in adolescents above the age of 18. This determines that the narcissistic personality slowly builds up into children and fruits as a mental illness at age of 18. So, a proper regulation in personality development must be provided to a child to evade narcissistic traits in the future.   Kids and adolescents inherit habits and personalities from society more than older people. Their mind is much focused and curious about learning something. With a constantly developing brain, children could learn things effortlessly at that age. That is why the young age sets a base for developing a personality for the child’s future.   Give a Read: How to introduce Personality Development to Kids?   Sources through narcissism steps into childhood   Narcissism includes the traits of grandiose exhibitionism, a sense of entitlement, self-importance, and high self-esteem in a person. Children with narcissistic personalities look to be selfish and competitive fellows in others’ view. These traits indeed provide abilities attached to the traits that help them to perform well in academics. So, society does appreciate such traits in kids initially without knowing narcissism.   When such personalities develop, a narcissistic individual will seek exploitation of others, entitlement, pride, and attention. He/she values any extrinsic assets other than intrinsic things like relationships and personal growth. They do not value the emotions of others and hurt others in seek of attention and control. This conniving behavior of narcissists results in self-destroying when people stop validating them.   Any person would not want a kid to get engulfed in narcissism, and that is why they should be aware of what originates these characteristics in them and avoid them sooner.   Wrong Parenting Childhood Shame Education System Lack of Personality Development Romantic Relationships Social Media are the major factors that influence the narcissistic personality in kids, teens, or adolescents. Regulating and modulating these aspects in the right way can prevent a child from falling into narcissism. 1. Wrong Parenting   Research shows that parents who are authoritative and happy develop children with optimistic and kind behavior, whereas permissive parenting leads to developing negative and malicious behavior in kids. This shows how parenting impacts the character of the kids.   A good way of parenting influences good morals, habits, and empathy in kids that helps the kid to become virtuous. Contrarily, bad parenting can cause kids to grow stressed, anxious, insecure, and other malevolent behaviors. Overvaluation, devaluation, abandonment, and narcissistic parents are the 4 main aspects of parenting styles that can develop narcissism in kids  Overvaluation   Idealization or overvaluation of a kid is that the parents think that their kids are special, precious, and deserve more attention. They think that their kids are far better than other kids and validate them often. Such parents do ignore or manipulate the flaws of the kids and tend to appreciate any behavior the kid possesses.   For instance, if a kid loses a running race, a normal parent would react like “It’s okay, the opponent was good, you can win next time in practice”. But the overvaluing parents try to maneuver the flaws of the kid by saying “You were the best, the opponent got lucky or might have cheated”.   This may look like a parent being affectionate and kind whereas it indeed creates a mindset of being special and superior in kids. In such a way the self-esteem and self-importance in kids peaks and that is the first stage to fall into narcissism. Devaluation   If parents overvalue their kids, the expectation of them increases simultaneously. Such parents praise and admire their kids when they achieve something extrinsic from which they can be proud. They see their kids as a source of prestige in society and if that fails to happen, devaluation begins.     The devaluation of kids is mostly verbal abuse, from which they hurt the child for not satisfying their expectations. They compare the kids with others, shame, and criticize repeatedly, makes the kid insecure and starve for validation. The devaluation practice mostly brings up covert narcissism in kids.     Abandonment   Giving kids the silent treatment or abandoning them will increase the longevity of affection, attachment as well as anger issues. Without any guidance from wise personas, a kid is more vulnerable to malicious acts in society. Such adolescents tend to become malignant narcissists and fall into addictive drugs and alcohol.   Give a Read: What are the Types of Narcissism?   Narcissistic Parents   When a kid grows under the dark shadow of narcissistic parents, he/she is going to experience every possible narcissistic trait and learn survival tactics through them. The chance of sinking into narcissism gets increased every day due to the constant exposure to narcissistic behaviors.   The kids might subconsciously believe that the lifestyle of their parents is what brings happiness and success. Following the same vicious path, the child slowly fell into the dark triad personality.   2. Childhood Shame   You might come across narcissists who brag about their childhood traumas. Whether the trauma is from the abuse of parents, teachers, friends, or society; narcissists use this trauma as an excuse for justifying the actions of their personality traits. However, it was not the trauma that made them possess this narcissistic personality, but the shame. In the act of hiding the shame, they perceive them as trauma to validate their actions.   The…

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Importance of Introducing Personality Development for kids

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Humans are getting modernized day by day, which greatly impacted the culture, education, personalities, and lifestyle of the current generation. These impacts have to be commonly faced by the present young generation, so-called Gen-Z.   Among these young ones who are facing these changes, one of them may be your kid. Without a basic education and personality development skill, adapting to these pacing changes may be tough. So, this article will help you to delve into the importance of Personality development for kids and teach efficiently.   To understand the essentials and the ways to teach personality development to kids, you must have a clear understanding of it in the first place. What is Personality development? Personality development is shaping and enriching one’s character, habits, and talents to have a fully bloomed personality in time. This is achieved through education, parenting, and training courses. A person who inherited personality development activities tends to be more virtuous and wiser. Why is personality development important in today’s life? Today’s world is more complicated than in earlier days. Everyone is having their daily life facing many hurdles on their way. The hurdles keep on changing and have become more challenging. You may find the lifestyle of this modern age is difficult, but it isn’t. With your personality development and soft skills, you can evade any hurdles that you face in your life with ease. What will happen in lack of Personality development? The personality of a person defines his/her life, his skills, friends, etc. Good people always get attracted to one who has a good personality. Without a quality personality, self-development and achieving goals are not possible. You cannot segregate your strengths and weaknesses. Also, you may lack decision-making and other soft skills in absence of personality development.  In terms of mental health, a person can experience stress, anxiety, depression, and also even existential crisis without a standard personality. He/ she cannot bear the difficulties they face in their life. So, having a good personality results in a healthy mindset. What are the big five personality traits? According to research, it is found that people’s attributes can be categorized into five big traits. They are, Extraversion Agreeableness Conscientiousness Emotional Stability Openness to experience Extraversion- A person with an extraversion personality is liable to be dominant, more energetic, and optimistic especially in social interactions. Agreeableness- Agreeableness personality people possess a helping tendency, a gentle approach, and being peaceful in nature. They wish to maintain a healthy and attached relationship. Conscientiousness- People with conscientious personalities are found to be more responsible with good organizing quality. They have a highly guarded mindset with controlled behavior and are also mindful of their actions. Emotional Stability- An emotionally stable person can adapt to any circumstances and is found to deal with anger issues or any other negative emotional situations. Openness to experience- A person with an openness to experience personality is always eager to learn new things. Also, they were found to be highly intellectual with immense curiosity and creativity.  Wrapping up the overview of personality development and diving more into the content. Why personality development must be introduced at a young age? Nobody in this world possesses a personality by birth. There are chances of transferring certain traits through genetics, but they are indeed changeable. The young generation so-called Gen- Z falls under the age gap of 9 – 24 years. During the Gen-Z period, kids experience various hormonal changes resulting in experiencing different types of emotions. So, Personality development has to be introduced to kids to shape their emotions and changes to be productive in their teenage years.  On the other factor, introducing soft skills and personality development at a young age is easier than teaching for an adult. Adults have a built-up personality that may be hard to alter even through training or therapies.  In addition to that, during teenage, kids who have undergone personality development deal with their romantic relationships much healthier. On the other hand, in lacking quality personality, relationships might always be trouble.  How personality development helps the education of the kids? Introducing personality development to your child helps to achieve certain soft skills such as ●       Creative Thinking ●       Interpersonal skills ●       Self-confidence ●       Self-motivation ●       Problem-solving ●       Decision making ●       Leadership ●       Empathy ●       Management ●       Teamwork, etc. Implementing these soft skills is itself a road to success. Considering these skills, interpersonal skills include language fluency, public speaking, reading, presentation skills, and group discussion. With these qualities, your kid will be able to bypass any interactive exams with fewer difficulties.   With the management skills, your kid can achieve time management as well as handle emotions such as stress and anger. This helps your child to be focused and learn quicker. By introducing your kid to Self-confidence and self-motivation through personality development, the kid has sufficient self-esteem and courage to face the exams. Also, these kids proved to have lesser stage fear.  How Personality development assists the future of the kids? Having a developed personality not alone helps your kid’s education, but also sets the pillar of the child’s life. People attract or hold back at people by judging their personalities. Thus, the lessons which are imprinted in the personality of children will always be supportive.  Your kid might experience all these circumstances in the lifetime, ●       Relationships ●       Jobs ●       Dreams ●       Travel ●       Parenting, etc. To have a thriving life in all these phases, an upright personality development must have been introduced at a young age. Achieving dreams and career Firstly, the induced self-motivation and an optimistic character would always shoulder your kid when he/she wants a dream job or to achieve dreams. Then, the enriched creativity through personality development helps the way to achieve the goals.  Also, it ensures the personal growth of the kid during the life phases. Healthy Relationships When it comes to relationships, you can see there are very few long-term healthy relationships nowadays. Lack of personality development at a young age is the…

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