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Am I a narcissist in a Relationship? 7 Reasons you’re not

For the most part, you are not the narcissist in a relationship if you think you are one. However, to check that, you must confirm things that you did in the past or do right now. This article will ensure you get that done effectively.   Firstly and foremostly, does a narcissist know they are the narcissist in the relationship? A study shows that narcissists do have insights into their narcissistic personality traits. Their self-pride, lack of empathy, and high self-esteem choose to ignore the flaws and be proud of them. So, if you are the one who does not want to be a narcissist but highly doubts “am I a narcissist” in the relationship, you’re not. To assure that, proceed further into this article.   Why do I feel like I am a narcissist?   Narcissists are good manipulators and gas lighters who can manipulate people or things in a way that their actions do not affect their credibility among others. So, narcissists gaslight you before you even have an idea of accusing them of their actions. This makes you feel that you were the reason for their actions. As a result, you have to take responsibility for a narcissist’s action, which in turn makes you feel like you’re the narcissist.   Having self-awareness, doing self-study, and taking responsibility for your actions are the things that narcissists aren’t capable of.  If you ever feel like you are a narcissist, do a self-evaluation by answering the questions below.   1. Who discarded first?   If you haven’t known about narcissism before and fell right into the narcissistic trap, you cannot be the one who discards the partner first without experiencing any abuse. The discarding is a crucial narcissistic tactic followed by every narcissist to initiate the abusive patterns.   Why do narcissists discard you? Narcissists intentionally discard you to initiate the abusive patterns in a relationship, as well as in search of another source of validation and attention. So, if you are the one thinking you are the narcissist, be sure of who initiated the abuse by discarding it. You are probably not a narcissist if you haven’t discarded it first.   2. Who constantly got hurt after every conversation?   Having a conversation with a narcissist can be exhaustive and tough. You might have heard that “A healthy conversation is a key in a relationship” But it doesn’t work in the narcissist relationship.   Why narcissistic partners cannot have a healthy conversation? Narcissists can’t have a healthy conversation as they don’t hold the accountability for their doings and blame-shift them to protect their self-pride. The lack of accountability in a narcissist causes the victims to believe the fault was theirs. This, in turn, hurts the victim at the end of every conversation with a narcissist.   So, remember, if you are the one who got hurt while being in an abusive phase, you might not be a narcissist.   Give a Read: Abusive Patterns of Narcissists   3. Who apologized at every end of a conversation?   Followed by getting hurt in a conversation with a narcissist, you might end up apologizing to them. The fear of losing the relationship and the guilt for things that you don’t need to take responsibility for will push you to apologize to the narcissist. The narcissist wants their partner to apologize to feel entitled at the end of the conversation. It is always the narcissist who will hold the upper hand in the conversation during the abusive phase of a narcissistic relationship.   Do narcissists ever apologize to their partners? Narcissists do apologize only when they feel like the victim is getting better after the abusive relationship. They use the apology as a hoovering tactic to pull the victim back into the narcissistic relationship. As their elevated self-pride does not allow them to apologize, narcissists often come up with the phrase “I’m sorry that you felt that way”, which again gaslights the victim.   So, if you have no intention to hoover your partner by apologizing but to save the relationship, you are in the good end.   4. Who doesn’t care if one of you got hurt?   Narcissists have no empathy for others, even for their partners but seek constant validation and care from empathetic people. Narcissists envy your empathy, kindness, and seek to destroy the good qualities in you. That is why narcissists abuse their partners to feel entitled for gaining the power to control others.   So, a narcissist typically ignores or takes no responsibility if their partner gets hurt, whereas others care about their partner’s emotions and mental health. This apprehends that you possess no traits of narcissism if you care about your partner.   Give a Read: 6 Types of people who make the narcissistic relationship long-lasting    5. Who separates friends and family from life?   Narcissists tend to isolate the victims from their friends and family. They want the victim to be vulnerable enough so that he/she wouldn’t reach out to someone for help or report about the abuse they’re going through.   Although not every narcissist is capable of successfully isolating you from the family, they can go far in doing such acts.   Why do narcissists isolate you from friends and family? Narcissists fear their dark triad personality getting exposed to society. They become hysterical and more abusive if they get accused of their malicious act; which is why they isolate the victim from their family and supporters. Narcissists could not bear shame and accusations as they destroy their bloated self-esteem.   Therefore, if you do not intend to separate your partner and family, stop doubting you are the narcissist in the relationship.   6. Do you care about your partner’s life?   Anyone who is in love cares for their partner’s health, mental stability, goals, and dreams. But, in the case of a narcissist, they do not care about their partner’s life. It is always about them who should have…

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6 Factors that originates narcissism in Kids

People diagnosed with narcissism or who show narcissistic traits have malevolent behaviors that harm others and are self-destructive too. Witnessing kids acquire such personalities can be hurtful. Find out the different factors that originate the narcissistic behaviors in innocent kids and adolescents. So, you can avoid consequences before it’s too late.   Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or the narcissistic traits in a person does not pop out suddenly out of nowhere. Instead, these dark triad personality traits of a narcissist are the impact of external factors that are experienced in his/her childhood.   Fortunately, psychologists suggest that narcissism can only be diagnosed in adolescents above the age of 18. This determines that the narcissistic personality slowly builds up into children and fruits as a mental illness at age of 18. So, a proper regulation in personality development must be provided to a child to evade narcissistic traits in the future.   Kids and adolescents inherit habits and personalities from society more than older people. Their mind is much focused and curious about learning something. With a constantly developing brain, children could learn things effortlessly at that age. That is why the young age sets a base for developing a personality for the child’s future.   Give a Read: How to introduce Personality Development to Kids?   Sources through narcissism steps into childhood   Narcissism includes the traits of grandiose exhibitionism, a sense of entitlement, self-importance, and high self-esteem in a person. Children with narcissistic personalities look to be selfish and competitive fellows in others’ view. These traits indeed provide abilities attached to the traits that help them to perform well in academics. So, society does appreciate such traits in kids initially without knowing narcissism.   When such personalities develop, a narcissistic individual will seek exploitation of others, entitlement, pride, and attention. He/she values any extrinsic assets other than intrinsic things like relationships and personal growth. They do not value the emotions of others and hurt others in seek of attention and control. This conniving behavior of narcissists results in self-destroying when people stop validating them.   Any person would not want a kid to get engulfed in narcissism, and that is why they should be aware of what originates these characteristics in them and avoid them sooner.   Wrong Parenting Childhood Shame Education System Lack of Personality Development Romantic Relationships Social Media are the major factors that influence the narcissistic personality in kids, teens, or adolescents. Regulating and modulating these aspects in the right way can prevent a child from falling into narcissism. 1. Wrong Parenting   Research shows that parents who are authoritative and happy develop children with optimistic and kind behavior, whereas permissive parenting leads to developing negative and malicious behavior in kids. This shows how parenting impacts the character of the kids.   A good way of parenting influences good morals, habits, and empathy in kids that helps the kid to become virtuous. Contrarily, bad parenting can cause kids to grow stressed, anxious, insecure, and other malevolent behaviors. Overvaluation, devaluation, abandonment, and narcissistic parents are the 4 main aspects of parenting styles that can develop narcissism in kids  Overvaluation   Idealization or overvaluation of a kid is that the parents think that their kids are special, precious, and deserve more attention. They think that their kids are far better than other kids and validate them often. Such parents do ignore or manipulate the flaws of the kids and tend to appreciate any behavior the kid possesses.   For instance, if a kid loses a running race, a normal parent would react like “It’s okay, the opponent was good, you can win next time in practice”. But the overvaluing parents try to maneuver the flaws of the kid by saying “You were the best, the opponent got lucky or might have cheated”.   This may look like a parent being affectionate and kind whereas it indeed creates a mindset of being special and superior in kids. In such a way the self-esteem and self-importance in kids peaks and that is the first stage to fall into narcissism. Devaluation   If parents overvalue their kids, the expectation of them increases simultaneously. Such parents praise and admire their kids when they achieve something extrinsic from which they can be proud. They see their kids as a source of prestige in society and if that fails to happen, devaluation begins.     The devaluation of kids is mostly verbal abuse, from which they hurt the child for not satisfying their expectations. They compare the kids with others, shame, and criticize repeatedly, makes the kid insecure and starve for validation. The devaluation practice mostly brings up covert narcissism in kids.     Abandonment   Giving kids the silent treatment or abandoning them will increase the longevity of affection, attachment as well as anger issues. Without any guidance from wise personas, a kid is more vulnerable to malicious acts in society. Such adolescents tend to become malignant narcissists and fall into addictive drugs and alcohol.   Give a Read: What are the Types of Narcissism?   Narcissistic Parents   When a kid grows under the dark shadow of narcissistic parents, he/she is going to experience every possible narcissistic trait and learn survival tactics through them. The chance of sinking into narcissism gets increased every day due to the constant exposure to narcissistic behaviors.   The kids might subconsciously believe that the lifestyle of their parents is what brings happiness and success. Following the same vicious path, the child slowly fell into the dark triad personality.   2. Childhood Shame   You might come across narcissists who brag about their childhood traumas. Whether the trauma is from the abuse of parents, teachers, friends, or society; narcissists use this trauma as an excuse for justifying the actions of their personality traits. However, it was not the trauma that made them possess this narcissistic personality, but the shame. In the act of hiding the shame, they perceive them as trauma to validate their actions.   The…

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Why are narcissistic students academically successful?

The academic success of students has a direct relationship with the personality of the students. Studies and research outcomes manifested that the students who are diagnosed with dark triad personalities are academically well-performing. You may wonder how a child can possess a dark triad personality? yes, they could. This article clarifies “why the narcissistic students are winning academically” and “the reason for these personality traits”.   A personality that owns a high sense of self-pride, entitlement, and attention-seeking are the traits of a mental illness which is known as a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with such narcissistic personalities follow malicious behavior to achieve control and pride. Such personality traits have also been found in students and adolescents. Narcissistic students are also found to be well-performing academically and the reasons for that are given in this article.    Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) cannot be diagnosed at a young age i.e., below 18. Due to their constantly developing habits and adapting to the changes in the environment in the adolescent period, diagnosing the personality of the kids is not possible. However, they show or express the narcissistic traits they have inherited externally.   Academic Performance of Narcissistic Students   Narcissism has some particular traits such as self esteem, bloated self pride, high entitlement, and attention seeking that help them in developing certain abilities to be successful. Looking closely at society, one can find that narcissistic people are successful in academics as well as careers. Not every narcissist is successful, but undoubtedly, most of the achievers are found to show narcissistic traits in them.   Studies attested that the high self-esteem trait in narcissistic teenagers helps them score high in the exams. Narcissistic teenagers are found to have both enhanced initiative and pleasant feelings. The enhanced initiative triggers the mental reflexes and the thought process to solve problems easily. Thus, it solidly develops the ability to learn and memorize things easily.    What are the abilities narcissistic students gain through narcissism?   The desire to have pride and feel entitled triggers the narcissistic kids to outperform others. The narcissistic kids find themselves superior and assume that they are special in this world. To validate that, they work hard and perform well in what they intend to do. The required qualities to perform well in academics are obtained through the narcissistic traits of the kids.   The qualities narcissistic kids obtain that help them to achieve in exams are mental toughness, competitiveness, and low anxiety & depression.   Mental toughness Teens with a narcissistic personality despise failure and shame as it would shrink their self glorification. So, the constant attempt to not lose in anything provides them the mental toughness to achieve. The mental toughness also intensifies the hardworking quality of narcissistic adolescents and helps them concentrate on what they desire.   The mental toughness of narcissists does not allow them to give up on anything easily. That’s why it is not easy to convince narcissists out of any situation.   Competitiveness Narcissistic students believe that they are special apart from others and make an effort to outshine others regardless of anything. This enhances the competitive behavior subconsciously. On the other hand, the education system plays a vital role in boosting the competitiveness of narcissistic teenagers.    Less anxiety & depression Researchers specify that narcissistic people are likely to have low anxiety, depression, and stress levels. The grandiose sense of the narcissistic students makes them feel superior and entitled. This grandiosity strengthens their self confidence and motivation. Thus, narcissistic kids do not stress as they believe everything is under their control. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you.  What are the factors that enhance narcissism in students? Kids and teenagers do not inherit narcissistic traits consciously, having said that, narcissism emerges in oneself, especially in kids, due to external factors. Although there are several factors that correlate the academics of students with narcissism, the main factors that enhance narcissism in students that help them to academically perform well and achieve good grades are the parenting, guidance of teachers, and grading system.   Give a Read: How does narcissism originate in Kids?   Parenting Parenting is one of the prime factors that lie as the origin of evolving narcissistic personality in kids. In the case of a kid possessing a narcissistic parent, the child has a higher chance of getting engulfed by a narcissistic personality due to the constant exposure of narcissistic traits.   Academically speaking, students’ personality affects far greater through the way of parenting whether the parents are narcissists or not. Despite the lack of personality development in kids, wrong parenting enhances narcissistic teenagers to perform well in their studies. The wrong parenting characteristics such as overvaluation and over-expectations impact the kid’s academic career.     Activation of narcissism in a child is due to overvaluation and devaluation or lack of attention. Praising and valuing lavishly makes the kids feel peculiar and develops self importance in them. Such parents do think that their kid is special than others and deserves to achieve more. It looks like the parents support the kid unconditionally, which is not.   The overvaluation subconsciously creates a grandiose personality in them. Such a personality then increases the urge for validation and attention. Thus, it motivates them to achieve success in exams to feel superior above others. On the other hand, the parents who overvalue the child also start expecting more from them, which indeed leads to the devaluation of the kids which again sparks narcissism within.   Guidance of Teachers Apart from the overvaluation of teachers, there are some other factors that stimulate the narcissistic personality in students. Not every teacher is toxic, anyways, there are teachers who judge students with physical appearance and their flattening way of speech. Judging such students and praising them…

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How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long lasting?

Have you ever wondered that most people at high authorization show a high sign of dark triad personalities which includes being narcissistic? If yes, you might raise numerous questions such as “How would they be career wise successful?”, “How did they have such abilities to achieve so easily?”, “What could be the factors that drive them to be successful?” and so on. This article will answer that.   Narcissism is an upsurging phenomenon in society. It is a personality accompanied by a mental condition named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Not everyone who has this personality is mentally ill, however, they show major traits of NPD. Narcissists crave entitlement and power to control others. To possess that, they will go to any end.   Narcissists follow dark triad methods such as abuse, gaslight, manipulation, etc., to gain superiority in society. On the other hand, they also achieve grandiosity by gaining control showing their talents. They knew that acquiring success makes them a center of attention among the people and make them acknowledge the narcissists more. This is why narcissists want to be more successful than others.    Success can be anything for a narcissist like winning an argument, ranking top in academics, being a substantial businessman, leader, politician, etc. But the key motive behind them was to get surplus validation and entitlement.   Studies say that, On analyzing the personalities of successful people, the maximum number of people had shown narcissistic traits. In addition, they have enhanced organizational as well as learning skills adjoined with their personality. Scholars mentioned narcissism as a two-edged sword since it provides some quality skills in return for a dark triad personality. Are narcissists successful in life?   Psychology researchers say that narcissists are found to be more successful than others because they are inclined towards extrinsic success goals such as wealth, fame, position, and power but not on intrinsic goals like healthy relationships and personal growth. They seek a successful life to attain the power to control others to their will and obtain validation as they wish. Some of the key traits of narcissism that assists narcissists to be successful in their career are, Self-esteem Toughness Risk-taking   Give a Read: Dark Triad Narcissism and Its pattern of Abuse   Self-Esteem   Narcissistic people are obsessed with high self-esteem by having an inflated complexity about themselves, in other words, God complex. The ability to think highly of oneself adds as fuel to be successful narcissists in their career. How does self-esteem make narcissists successful?   The high self-esteem in narcissists develops an enormous self-confidence and the ability to be competitive. Narcissists despise losing and can’t accept failure. That is why narcissists hammer away more than anyone to become successful. They don’t want to lose credibility, power, or be looked down on by others.    Since narcissists think about being entitled and powerful all-time, narcissists develop a defined leadership as well as organizational skill to make things happen. They love to order, guide, and get validation from others which subconsciously inherits the leadership skills in them.   Self-esteem is a healthy personality that provides high-quality skills to be a successful entrepreneur, leader, or in any career. It is encouraged to have considerable self-esteem to be an achiever. However, self-esteem should be able to be controlled with self-control. Toughness   Toughness is the ability to not give up easily and work harder to achieve something. According to the NARC, a narcissist’s ultimate goal is always to protect his/her grandiose self and self-pride. So, a failure in a career could demolish their self-loathing fantasy. This is why the narcissistic personality builds a mental toughness to not lose at any circumstances.   Every research about narcissism says that those who are successful, have a well-built mental toughness, especially narcissists. If successful narcissists find any possibilities to lose, they follow any or even malevolent ways to retain their self-pride. And if there is any situation where the narcissists did lose, they strive to manipulate the situation with their mental toughness and make them look like a winner in the end. Risk Taking   A conclusion of research done by Maccoby.M, a famous psychologist, and researcher mentions that narcissism is of two types when it comes to the ability for success. One is productive narcissism and the other is unproductive narcissism. Only productive narcissists take risks and find a way to get their job done and be successful.   The majority of CEOs of companies are found to have narcissistic tendencies and they are identified to be great risk-takers. It is often misinterpreted as strong willpower with a charismatic character.   Furthermore, narcissists engage in risky actions only to harness endless admiration and attention. They also insist on putting their employers or friends at risk to achieve that. The heightened self confidence, motivation, and the urge to gain admiration trigger to take risky actions or decisions regardless of consequences.   How do narcissists get successful quicker?   Narcissists wish to achieve things that can be acquired in a short time. This is why narcissists get bored or show no interest in a true relationship or personality development which takes more effort and time. Narcissists have no fear to take risks in decision-making, manipulate taxes, or even cheat to become successful quicker. Researchers point out that not every type of narcissist possesses the skills to become successful, however, narcissists who are successful are said to have high intellectual and organizational skills through narcissism.   Recommended Read: How do narcissistic students become successful in academics?   Why narcissists successful are not long lasting?   Due to their elevated self esteem, narcissists do not like equally potential people and try to ruin them. This is why narcissists are bad at collaboration and partnerships. With that said, narcissists are also keen on materialistic gains and so, they are more likely to cheat business partners, obscure taxations, and torment their employees which is the reason for a non-long-lasting successful journey.   These are the things…

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4 Types of Narcissism and its Pattern of Abuse

Are you the one who is constantly questioning your self worth, became mentally abused, felt unloved in a relationship, or got blamed for nothing? There are high chances of constant exposure to a narcissistic person with you. Here is why   Among people around us who follow their own life developing their personalities, there are people with personalities who are intentionally bound to harm others and their lives. Possessing this personality is known as a Dark Triad personality. The most common dark triad personality is narcissism and people who are diagnosed by it, follow a certain dark triad narcissistic personality pattern to hurt others. According to google trends, the term “narcissist” has been widely searched across the world for the past 10 years. This indicates the growth of narcissism in society. Types of Dark Triads   There are three types of disordered personalities that fall under the dark triad category. They are Narcissism Machiavellian Psychopathy A person who has a psychopathy disorder cannot control their emotions in hurting others. Meanwhile, Narcissism and Machiavellian diagnosed people are consciously hurt and manipulate others with intention. And that is why it is difficult to identify them in society.    People often misunderstand these disorders with stress, anxiety, and depression in lack of knowledge about these traits. Specifically, narcissistic traits are proliferating within people nowadays. So, awareness must be created about this dark triad narcissistic personality and its patterns    What does narcissism mean?   Narcissism is a term mentioning people who have similar traits from a mental disorder named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person with a narcissistic personality disorder possesses high self-esteem, lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of entitlement who seek constant validation and respect by controlling others.   Narcissists have traits of both Machiavellian and Psychopathy that include manipulation, self pride, and intention to hurt others. However, they are not psychopaths who cannot control their emotions. Narcissistic people can control their emotions and also feel guilt and shame while being malignant.   How to diagnose a narcissist person?   In 1988, Robert Raskin and Howard Terry had modulated an evaluation with sets of questions based on the statistical manual of mental disorders named Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI -40). The suspect who scores above 21-40 claimed to have more narcissistic traits such as high entitlement, exploitativeness, and more intentional binding characteristics.   Contrarily, a person with a low-end score of 3-10 NPI had been found to have very low self-esteem with high depression and anxiety. And the people who scored from 11-17 were considered to have a moderate personality.   What are the 4 main types of Narcissism?   Psychologists had analyzed the personality of narcissists and found that there are some differences in their traits. According to that, they classified several types of narcissists. The major 4 types of narcissistic personality almost comprise other variants. They are Grandiose Narcissist: High sense of entitlement and control Malignant Narcissist: Violent and deranged in nature Covert Narcissist: Hideous and covertly hurtful Communal Narcissist: Deceitful and act trustworthy Grandiose Narcissist: “High sense of entitlement and control ”   Grandiose Narcissists reportedly have high self esteem combined with a high desire for entitlement and control. People with this personality are always self centered and seek to be a leader of a group. A narcissist with grandiose traits often transpires to be a leader, politician, or primary person in a family.   The desire for power to control others life is itself that drives them to attain such places. They are always appreciated for their courage, boldness, and leadership skills. In lack of constant respect and admiration, they exploit others and attain control.   According to scholars, research says that grandiose narcissists can easily create a large organization or company as they are good risk-takers. However, they tend to fail at authorization by objectifying the employees or engaging in malicious activities for the business.   Do give a read: How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long-lasting?   Malignant Narcissist: “Violent and deranged in nature”   Malignant narcissists are found to carry more dark triads than other narcissistic variations. They are relevant to psychopathy at times, although their acts are intentionally bound. Malignant narcissists are extremely harmful with bloated self pride. They possess no morals in their act and manipulate situations to their needs.   Those who were diagnosed with malignant narcissism were fragile to criticism and cannot take the blame. Instead, their high self-esteem behavior tends to blame others for their inability to regulate themselves. Also, these people fantasize about power, success, and intellect over others. When their fantasy looks to be sliding down, they act by whatever means to achieve it.   To do that, they show no empathy and intentionally hurt others to gain superiority. Malignant narcissists have high insecurity and will find ways to hide them as they are afraid of getting exposed.   Covert Narcissism: “Hideous and covertly hurtful”   Covert narcissism also known as vulnerable narcissism does not have more self importance like other narcissistic traits. However, covert narcissists lack self confidence, self worth and seek ceaseless validation from their partners. Covert narcissists are tough to diagnose as they manipulate the partner or victim to get validation by portraying themselves as a weak persona.   In lack of validation, the narcissists intend to covertly abuse and blame shift their partners for their miserable lives. This is why covert narcissists are poor at having healthy relationships. In seek of attention and assurance, they look out for other people than their partners. As a result, covert narcissists lie, cheat and abuse their partners.  Communal Narcissists: “Deceitful and act trustworthy”   Communal narcissists use communal ways such as being mutual, cooperative, and trustworthy to gain an advantage over others. As grandiose narcissists, they expect high entitlement but in the form of providing face accompanying and support. Communal narcissists anticipate being an organizer or the reason to organize things in a group.   Communal narcissists boast themselves as “I’m a good…

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21 New Year Resolutions that make you a better person in 2022

A New year’s resolution is the goals, dreams, habits, and relationships that you fix at the beginning of the year to achieve by the end of the year. It can be either one or more resolutions, yet it will always be the one to make yourself better than the previous year. So, why not stick to it sincerely?   People always look for creative and unique new year resolutions to try on every year. However, they mostly end up having a fitness goal and fail in it. Wasn’t that funny? You want yourself to be better but couldn’t achieve it. This is because changes cannot happen quickly, it takes time and patience.   Firstly, you must understand that you have a year. Despite that, if you push yourself hard on your first day, you are going to lose interest quicker. You must start anything from a bare minimum, practice daily, improve constantly and reach your target. Even if you did not achieve to the fullest, the result of your new year resolution’s intention will satisfy you. The best thing about these new year resolutions is that they make you change in a year for good. It may be your appearance, physical health, mental health, achievements, etc. Changes are always good if the intentions are good. Thus, achieving these changes directly changes your personality for good too. So, here are some unique and common new year resolutions that will make you into a better person for next year. Read it and comment on what your new year’s resolutions are for this year. 1. Stop Regretting If you fail at something before and you wish you had done that differently, then you will regret that situation. Regretting catches your soul at that instance and does not allow you to grow further. So, instead of regretting such situations, try to understand what you have learned from them. Try to avoid those mistakes again and move on to face the future ahead.   2. Show Empathy Empathy is the ability to care for others by understanding their emotions. Any random act of kindness to someone, dogs, or anything will develop your empathy. Start using comforting words, help people economically, buy food or anything that shows your care for others this year. 3. Avoid Dramas To have mental stability this year, do not create a drama to get validation or kindly avoid intaking the dramas of others. Dramas make you overreact and overthink situations. If you ingest others’ drama, you will start comparing your situations and their consequences with theirs. Thus, your mental stability will break. 4. Do not Procrastinate Procrastinating work shouldn’t be the one trait for you this year. Yes, it is a personality trait. According to research done by the Institute of Research and Journals, procrastinating things is a sign of lacking conscientiousness. Since, no one procrastinates things actively, i.e., shifting things to do better things, it always ends up slowing you down. When procrastination becomes a habit, your life will lag behind. 5. No more Gossips Gossips can be truly hurtful. For people who ask, how can gossip be harmful? Gossips contain either a fact or a fake about a situation that triggers people. If the information came to be false, the victim may suffer the greatest. The victim may be you or others whose information is passed out through gossip. Once someone is affected by gossips, both their reputation and trust in others might get demolished So, if you find any information is misleading, choose not to forward others. 6. Socialize more People have adapted themselves into an introvert after the past pandemic times. As the situation changes, people are struggling to become extroverts. Studies show that introverts are depressed and are less happy. Meanwhile, extroverts are much joyful in their life. To socialize, try to feel less awkward talking to others, try to present your point of view in a conversation, and mix decent humor in it. Socializing helps to understand people’s thoughts and emotions. If you are depressed and stressing over something, socializing with people you trust and venting to them can greatly help to reduce your stress 7. Apologize for your mistakes From this year onwards, try to apologize for every mistake you make that hurts others. Do not try to hide those mistakes by ignoring or lying about them. It will ruin your righteous personality as you will start to ask for validation from others for reasoning your mistakes. Instead, accept your mistakes and say sorry, whoever it may be. Doing this will develop trust and mostly would not ruin a friendship. 8. Stopping pleading to Others In any case, if you are being accused of a mistake you have never done, do not apologize for it. Even if the accuser is the person, you love the most, apologizing for nothing degrades your self-confidence and Self-love. Also, never please anyone for nothing. If a person makes you plead, they don’t love you. Pleading others will pave out the opportunity for people to take control over you. 9. Focusing on Goals instead of persons. People who are obsessed with gaining friends and relationships tend to move slower in their goal pursuit. So, focus on your dream or career more. Gather people who also support your dreams and have a goal for themselves. In this way, you can have both growth and people at the same time along with them. 10. Acknowledging yourself This is a crucial resolution that everyone must take in this new year. If you are a hardworking person, a quick acknowledgment from anybody will always motivate you. But very few acknowledge others’ hard work. This might hurt us, minimize our willpower, and confidence to strive more but keep in mind that you work hard for your life. The first person who acknowledges you must be yourself. It just does not end with hard work alone, constantly keep acknowledging yourself when you help others, give kind words, achieve a little goal, or for any small thing…

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Importance of Introducing Personality Development for kids

Humans are getting modernized day by day, which greatly impacted the culture, education, personalities, and lifestyle of the current generation. These impacts have to be commonly faced by the present young generation, so-called Gen-Z.   Among these young ones who are facing these changes, one of them may be your kid. Without a basic education and personality development skill, adapting to these pacing changes may be tough. So, this article will help you to delve into the importance of Personality development for kids and teach efficiently.   To understand the essentials and the ways to teach personality development to kids, you must have a clear understanding of it in the first place. What is Personality development? Personality development is shaping and enriching one’s character, habits, and talents to have a fully bloomed personality in time. This is achieved through education, parenting, and training courses. A person who inherited personality development activities tends to be more virtuous and wiser. Why is personality development important in today’s life? Today’s world is more complicated than in earlier days. Everyone is having their daily life facing many hurdles on their way. The hurdles keep on changing and have become more challenging. You may find the lifestyle of this modern age is difficult, but it isn’t. With your personality development and soft skills, you can evade any hurdles that you face in your life with ease. What will happen in lack of Personality development? The personality of a person defines his/her life, his skills, friends, etc. Good people always get attracted to one who has a good personality. Without a quality personality, self-development and achieving goals are not possible. You cannot segregate your strengths and weaknesses. Also, you may lack decision-making and other soft skills in absence of personality development.  In terms of mental health, a person can experience stress, anxiety, depression, and also even existential crisis without a standard personality. He/ she cannot bear the difficulties they face in their life. So, having a good personality results in a healthy mindset. What are the big five personality traits? According to research, it is found that people’s attributes can be categorized into five big traits. They are, Extraversion Agreeableness Conscientiousness Emotional Stability Openness to experience Extraversion- A person with an extraversion personality is liable to be dominant, more energetic, and optimistic especially in social interactions. Agreeableness- Agreeableness personality people possess a helping tendency, a gentle approach, and being peaceful in nature. They wish to maintain a healthy and attached relationship. Conscientiousness- People with conscientious personalities are found to be more responsible with good organizing quality. They have a highly guarded mindset with controlled behavior and are also mindful of their actions. Emotional Stability- An emotionally stable person can adapt to any circumstances and is found to deal with anger issues or any other negative emotional situations. Openness to experience- A person with an openness to experience personality is always eager to learn new things. Also, they were found to be highly intellectual with immense curiosity and creativity.  Wrapping up the overview of personality development and diving more into the content. Why personality development must be introduced at a young age? Nobody in this world possesses a personality by birth. There are chances of transferring certain traits through genetics, but they are indeed changeable. The young generation so-called Gen- Z falls under the age gap of 9 – 24 years. During the Gen-Z period, kids experience various hormonal changes resulting in experiencing different types of emotions. So, Personality development has to be introduced to kids to shape their emotions and changes to be productive in their teenage years.  On the other factor, introducing soft skills and personality development at a young age is easier than teaching for an adult. Adults have a built-up personality that may be hard to alter even through training or therapies.  In addition to that, during teenage, kids who have undergone personality development deal with their romantic relationships much healthier. On the other hand, in lacking quality personality, relationships might always be trouble.  How personality development helps the education of the kids? Introducing personality development to your child helps to achieve certain soft skills such as ●       Creative Thinking ●       Interpersonal skills ●       Self-confidence ●       Self-motivation ●       Problem-solving ●       Decision making ●       Leadership ●       Empathy ●       Management ●       Teamwork, etc. Implementing these soft skills is itself a road to success. Considering these skills, interpersonal skills include language fluency, public speaking, reading, presentation skills, and group discussion. With these qualities, your kid will be able to bypass any interactive exams with fewer difficulties.   With the management skills, your kid can achieve time management as well as handle emotions such as stress and anger. This helps your child to be focused and learn quicker. By introducing your kid to Self-confidence and self-motivation through personality development, the kid has sufficient self-esteem and courage to face the exams. Also, these kids proved to have lesser stage fear.  How Personality development assists the future of the kids? Having a developed personality not alone helps your kid’s education, but also sets the pillar of the child’s life. People attract or hold back at people by judging their personalities. Thus, the lessons which are imprinted in the personality of children will always be supportive.  Your kid might experience all these circumstances in the lifetime, ●       Relationships ●       Jobs ●       Dreams ●       Travel ●       Parenting, etc. To have a thriving life in all these phases, an upright personality development must have been introduced at a young age. Achieving dreams and career Firstly, the induced self-motivation and an optimistic character would always shoulder your kid when he/she wants a dream job or to achieve dreams. Then, the enriched creativity through personality development helps the way to achieve the goals.  Also, it ensures the personal growth of the kid during the life phases. Healthy Relationships When it comes to relationships, you can see there are very few long-term healthy relationships nowadays. Lack of personality development at a young age is the…

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What are the benefits you get after an existential crisis?

Existential Crisis is a stage everyone goes through at certain points in their lives. This negative feeling may hit you at times when you are going through some hardships. In those times, your feelings may hike up and will lead you to overthink and question your existence. However, as a matter of perspective, overcoming this feeling has some benefits after an existential crisis. So, let’s look into this article to know more about them.   It is a dreadful feeling to have an existential crisis. It doesn’t come suddenly, you may experience it while all of your hardships get stacked up and thrown at a time. You will get highly stressed, depressed, and overthink too much. The existential crisis can be caused due to various factors. But at some point, you have to decide whether to get trapped in it or get out of it and gain some benefits after an existential crisis. Trapping in an existential crisis may lead to losing hope in life and raise suicidal thoughts to one. In another case, you can process through it and get rid of an existential crisis. Optimistically speaking, an existential crisis isn’t an illness or symptoms of anything. It is a phase everyone goes through in life. So, through processing, you can learn a lot from it. Learning helps to process and obtain these benefits after an existential crisis  1. Awareness of any situation The first benefit after an existential crisis is a golden one. If you have awareness of any situation you have been put in, you can easily escape or get through it. The only thing that gives you this much awareness is overthinking. As an overthinker, you can easily guess the possibilities of things that are about to happen.  Not only escape out from the situation, but you can also use the situation to your advantage. In such a way, you will be the smartest person in a crowd. Cheers! 2. Perspective Without a perspective for a statement, situation, or sequence of matters, you cannot come up with a judgment or a decision. Perspective comes in two ways, positive or negative. Even though optimistic thinking is a good thing, sometimes you have to think on both sides. You will only attain this benefit after an existential crisis. Some of you were never able to see the things that hurt you. In the case of Indian women, the factors that hurt them are either hidden or not been aware of. So, going through an existential crisis will help you to get your perspective straight and decide “Do and Don’ts”. 3. Decision Making Once you have gone through the existential crisis, a clear thought will arise and you will be ready to face things that are yet to come at you. And additionally, your improved decision-making skills after the existential crisis are going to help you. You cannot get over an existential crisis without deciding what to do in a situation. Thus, your ability to decide gets increases naturally after that.  You won’t always be a nice person, even if someone tries to humiliate you. Knowing the situation, you are able to decide and say “yes or no” straight at them. 4. Focusing the Priorities Commonly, one will always get mature to some extent. So, you will stop worrying about the things bothering you and act on them. This makes you prioritize things that matter and work for them. This is a benefit after an existential crisis that improves your life to a better one. If you prioritize your dream, job, family, etc., dedicate yourself to what you love.   In such a way, you won’t feel regretful or stressed about any situation. So, prioritize what you love and commit to it. Want to vent your experiences with someone? Register here and connect with a listener who wishes to lend you an ear. 5. Never Give Up When you start focusing on the priorities, all the above benefits you have attained after the existential crisis will provide you with enough willpower. You know that you will regret things and fall back into an existential crisis if you didn’t put in enough work. So, a never-give-up attitude grows up in you. You strive to achieve things rather than feeling now.  With this attitude, you also gain a strong dedication and determination to reach your goals. Conclusion To phrase it easily, the overall benefit you receive after an existential crisis is Growth. In the end, you will be mature enough to handle your hardships and struggles. Only optimistic thinkers can learn from the things they are going through and acquire the benefits. So, try to think positively always and share your knowledge and experiences with us while or after going through it.  FAQs Q1. Can an existential crisis be a good thing? Optimistically yes, you can learn certain things while going through an existential crisis and acquire some benefits from it. Q2. What are the benefits we get after an existential crisis? There are chances to get these benefits after an existential crisis, Awareness Perspective Decision making  Priorities Never Give up

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Define Existential crisis, effects, factors and ways to overcome it

An existential crisis can be defined as a dreadful feeling of one’s questioning themselves about the reason for their existence in this world. However, the existential crisis definition is a combination of many factors that are mentioned in this article.   This anguished feeling may be caused due to psychological trauma, separation, divorce, major loss, the death of a loved one, a life-threatening experience, psychoactive drug use, etc. You could have heard about this term from movies & memes as a joke and might not contemplate about that. However, it should be given attention to make people aware of this.     You can witness people say that “I’m depressed and caught in existential crisis after watching this movie/series” with a smirk on their faces as they are being proud of it. It isn’t simple as that. People who have gone through an existential crisis wouldn’t belittle this feeling and make fun of the definition “Existential Crisis“. They might have suffered and processed through it. Some people grasp the term existential crisis without a slight knowledge or experience of how it would feel like.  Certain people expose themselves as someone who is experiencing an existential crisis for trivial reasons. On contrary, it’s a bit serious issue that we should talk about, share, and bring awareness about it. One cannot state the existential crisis definition without considering its effects and causes. Effects and Cause   This is a crucial thing that we should bring to notice. An existential crisis could affect one’s mental health and state of being a good person. The major factor that causes you to experience an Existential crisis is Loneliness Lack of acknowledgment Trauma/ abuse Losing Hope   Loneliness   Existential crisis mostly grows in you when you are alone. Being lonely makes you overthink things and cause you to feel down heartened as things in this world doesn’t go along as you thought it would be. This may look like the world does not want you.   Lack of Acknowledgement   An existential crisis could happen when people inconsiderately avoid acknowledging us and value our presence. This gives us a stressful vibe that can’t be held for long. You may look high at others and lower yourself. In other words, your self-esteem and self-confidence become low. You feel disorientated and despised of yourself. Trauma or Abuse   In this society, finding personas who are disheartening, liars, cowards, narcissists, and non-empathetic have become common. You may feel useless and completely lost when people you love won’t value your opinion, disrespects you, leave you, hurt and try to manipulate you. The persons maybe your loved ones, friends, and even your parents that hurt you. Some could also have suffered from domestic violence. These cause traumatic experiences which then breeds trust issues within us. Then it will lead you to fall into the feeling of existential crisis. Want to vent your experiences with someone? Register here and connect with a listener who wishes to lend you an ear. Losing Hope   The main cause of experiencing the existential crisis is that you start losing what kept you going healthy and energetic throughout your life. You can lose feelings, confidence, self-love, energy, etc, but the main reason for one to catch an existential crisis is when one starts losing hope in others. As from the existential crisis definition, you will start to question your presence in this world once you lose hope. Hope is an inevitable thing that keeps our spirit up to have a social link with others. Hope gives you confidence, it is what makes us expect kind, care, and empathetic behaviors from others. Once we lose hope, we start to give up on people around us as they never show any kind of gratitude, love & care to us for what we have done for them. Rise and Shine   Each and Everyone here faces an existential crisis at some point in their lifetime. Some get lost in that and some come out with absolute clarity of what they went through in the past and the way the future is going to be. Certain people lose hope in their life, love, and everything. But we shouldn’t be like that, this life is a beautiful thing that is uncontrollable and filled with uncertainties, and people around you are a mixture of good, bad, and innocents. You can’t change people, they change if they wanted to. Not everyone can rid of toxic people but can resist them not interfere in your life by having boundaries around them. One must thoroughly understand the existential crisis definition to process it.   Ways to avoid an existential crisis   If you are experiencing an existential crisis, it must be a hard time for you. You can dazzle through these dark times by following certain things. Self-love Empathizing good people Socializing Self-love   Firstly, you can find self-love i.e., you should acknowledge yourself for your actions and be proud of what good deeds you had done. Once you attained self-love, you will be filled up with self-confidence and self-worth. You won’t seek attention, starve for acknowledgment or depend on others. Kindness   Secondly, Be kind to people. Yes, you have always been kind and ended up being here, but that doesn’t make being kind is wrong. This time, be kind to people only who are kind to others as well. That doesn’t mean you should be rude to toxic people. If you are being rude, It will be easy to gaslight you even if you’re reacting to their venomous behavior. So, ignoring and having boundaries around toxic people is the best way. Be kind to innocents like kids and other living beings. Have a pet or adopt one, it grows your empathy for others. Help people without any expectations. Carrying hatred and revenge against someone destroys your sanity, so forgive people who have done you wrong. But never forget what they have done to you. Ghost them if possible and never give…

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Important factors that Indian women must know

Women of India are majorly affected on a daily basis. It may be due to superstitious cultural restriction, women inequality, safety, education or whatsoever. In the amidst, Indian women also lose their mental stability due to countless reasons. There are certain things people do not want Indian women to know. So, they could gain control over women round-the-clock. But, if you know these 8 things, you could save sanity and mental peace for yourself.   Have you ever got stressed so much?. Even if you find ways to reduce your stress, are you bombarded with stress again and again by any means?. It feels like anxiety and depression were always present in your life. If so, you might be experiencing any one of the following things that Indian women must know. This article discusses some information that may benefit every woman in the world. However, by the end of this article, you will have insights into why this article is focusing on Indian women. Now, let’s get into the list. 1. Prioritize yourself This may sound like a selfish act, but a woman who prioritizes herself is a sign of growth. She cares about herself, her mental stability and her lifestyle. Saying that, for women who prioritize others, it will be easy for them to shape your emotions for their wish. It can be your parents, friends, or partner, you cannot control the way you love to live. You will always have to make adjustments for them. Especially in India, emotional drama is a habitual thing in almost every home. Isn’t that right? If you are a self-loving person (not a selfish person), you can make decisions of your own and have your taste of freedom in life. It paves the way to achieve your dream, passion and dream life. Although it isn’t simple to overcome other people to make our choices in India, you will find that worth trying in the future. 2. Types of Boys Psychologically, it is said to have 5 types of boys in this world. However, we can categorize almost all boys into three different variations Alpha Beta Sigma Remember that this categorization is equivalent for women too. So, look at the details and ask yourself. Alpha- The Alpha males are basically extroverts, bold and are more appealing in nature. They belong everywhere and are fun to have around. Alpha males are mostly straightforward and good in relationships too. They are good leaders and basically loud at parties. Women mostly seek Alpha males for partners. Beta- Beta males are inclusively nice, affectionate and respectful. Beta males tend to be kind to everyone and more to their loved ones. You should differentiate between being needy and affectionate. Because Beta males are affectionate by nature. They do things in command and most preferable to be an employee as a career. Sigma- Sigma males are wiser than other male types. They look calm and kind enough. However, sigma males don’t speak in a group unless it makes sense and hates arguing. They have their own morals and way of living. Sigma males are good listeners and self-decision makers. Also, they can adapt to any of the circumstances and mostly prefer to have a job as a self-made business or in a leadership career. Indian women must know and analyze themselves and decide which types of males they prefer and have them around as a friend, colleagues, or partners. This would help you to have your growth thriving. 3. Narcissism The term “Narcissism” is the most crucial thing that Indian women should know about. Learning about this topic may widen your perspective of Indian families and societies. NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) is a personality disorder in which people are diagnosed to have high self-esteem and attention-seeking traits. It does not end there, these people are inadequate to have relationships. People with NPD are vastly lurking among people without getting diagnosed. We cannot find them easily, they may be your friend, partner or a family member. The psychology of narcissism – W. Keith Campbell The sad thing is, their high self-esteem will tend to hurt the people around them. They are good at manipulating, gaslighting, abusing (verbally or physically), ghosting, etc. In fact, Narcissists can extremely take over one’s emotions through manipulation and finally, the victims are left traumatized after having a relationship with them. Obviously, most Indian women have no idea about narcissism. To find and avoid interacting with them, one must learn a lot about this personality disorder. So, grasp the knowledge on NPD and avoid the consequences of suffering. 4. Trauma and Abuse Coming to the other pressing fact that Indian women must know. Apart from other countries, Indian people wouldn’t know the term trauma or abuse. This is because it has become a part of the majority of people’s lives. Indians misunderstood the abuse and trauma with fights and hardships. Trauma is a byproduct of continuous exposure to Abuse which a victim had to face. The trauma can affect your mental health as well as physical health. Victims who experienced trauma have a chance of diagnosing PTSD, OCD, BPD, Bipolar disorder, NPD, etc. Women may also face problems in their fertility and periods due to excessive trauma. These consequences can only be avoided by analyzing the situation and acting on it. No one has the right to abuse you for whatever the reasons could be. So, don’t let yourself suffer more as you don’t deserve it. 5. Dysfunctional Family In a household, if you experience constant quarrels, fights, abuse from your family members, then there are high chances for you to be in a dysfunctional family. Members from dysfunctional families believe that it is completely normal to have troubles at all times in a family. On the other hand, a family must provide a peaceful atmosphere. Generations from dysfunctional families would always be in a state of fear for troubles that are about to happen as always. They fear neglect and suffer from trauma from…

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