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Narcissistic enablers are the one who enables or boosts the dark triad traits in the narcissists by providing a surplus amount of validation and attention that a narcissist needs. This narcissistic supply triggers narcissism in a person and becomes more noxious in time. Check out the article to know more about the traits of narcissistic enablers.   A person with a narcissistic tendency looks out to exploit others emotionally, physically or both to feel entitled among others. They are self-centered with high self-esteem who abuse regardless of family, friends, or partners. The narcissism in a person gets strong when they are motivated to expose their traits. This is what enablers do, they provide the narcissistic supply that motivates the narcissists to play with the emotions of the victims. So a clear understanding of the traits of narcissistic enablers is required to protect ourselves.   Often, victims of narcissists are the ones who become the enabler of narcissism. Although, in some cases, enablers can be a non-victim who can be mother, dad, sister, brother, partner, friends, relatives, or anyone. Are you doubting yourself to be a narcissistic enabler? Proceed further. Why do people become enablers of narcissists?   One can become an enabler of a narcissist for various reasons including lack of self-worth, no boundaries, less empathy, wrong parenting, fear of disapproval. In most cases, such enablers are not aware of them being the source for narcissists. The narcissistic enablers play a vital role in a narcissist’s life to be more abusive with their victim.   Personalities that are great narcissistic enablers   Of course, victims of narcissists will typically have kind, empathetic, and loveable personalities. However, the key personalities that enable narcissism in narcissists are pleasers Believers of change Gossipers Narcissists flying monkeys Empathizers These personalities become narcissistic enablers, with or without intention to boost the narcissists. Let’s look at how these personalities enable narcissists. Pleasers   Pleasers are the kind of people who are way too nice to others, especially when it comes to their loved ones. When pleasers are in a relationship with a narcissist, they idealize the narcissist as superior and ready to lose self-worth, boundaries, or anything you name. They are desperate to have a relationship or to save it; For that, they are ready to lose anything, even mental stability.   People with the pleasing mentality become a prominent source for a narcissist. The reason behind that is, they constantly validate, give attention, and serve wasteful appraisals to make the narcissists feel entitled. This enables the narcissists to reveal more traits to abuse their victims endlessly.   Do narcissistic enablers ever see the truth? Narcissistic enablers often know about the narcissistic traits and choose to ignore them. They do not want to give up a relationship that does not exist in the first place. Consequently, they are prepared to go through any abuse to conserve the relationship. Believers of change   On the verge of losing the bond, relationship, or marriage, some people stick to the narcissists believing that they could change them. Narcissists cannot be changed without personal growth and talk therapy. But these people get enmeshed within the narcissistic abuse cycle trying to change the narcissist.   While fantasizing about changing the narcissists, these people give extravagant attention and support to the narcissists. They validate the narcissist’s actions and justify their actions. This enables narcissism in the narcissists to abuse more.   Pleasers or believers of change, are the kind of personalities that have the potential to stay longer in an abusive narcissistic relationship.   Give a Read: Who can make the narcissistic relationship work for a long time? Gossipers   Gossipers are either toxic or ignorant. They do not consider the aftereffects of the gossip that could ruin anyone’s credibility. Narcissists use gossipers as a great tool to smear campaigns against the victim. In some cases, the gossipers themselves are narcissists and love to spread false rumors just to ruin someone’s image or get some attention. Narcissists   Can a narcissist be an enabler too? Following the previous hypothesis, yes, narcissistic enablers can be a narcissist only when they are in bond with each other. For example, a narcissistic mother over validates her narcissistic kid and that enables narcissism. In a relationship, the partner with the less dominant narcissistic personality becomes an enabler of the narcissist.   For instance, covert narcissists portray themselves to be weak as a manipulative tactic and praise their partner for their ability to do things. So, when the other partner is also revealed to be a narcissist, but with malevolent traits; He/she tends to be more dominant than the covert narcissist. Thus, the covert narcissist becomes the narcissist enabler in the relationship. Flying Monkeys   Flying monkeys are the people who the narcissists sent against you to hoover again into the abuse. The flying monkeys are great supporters of narcissists and believe every word of narcissists to be true. Narcissists use the flying monkeys to validate their actions as well as hoover back the victim. Flying monkeys blindly believe the narcissist’s manipulations as a great caretaker, leader, survivor and go against the victims to support the narcissists. Flying monkeys are the great narcissistic enablers who fill the needs of the narcissistic supply and help to enable the abusive cycle over the victim. Empathizers   Almost every victim of the narcissists was a great empathizer and fell right into the narcissistic trap. Some wake up realizing the abuse and trauma, whereas, others choose to stick with the narcissistic abusive cycle. Thus, becoming the enabler of narcissism by empathizing with the narcissists and helping them emotionally.   The narcissists, when justifying the malicious actions with the childhood trauma, the empathizers accept the justification and continue to love them by lowering their self-worth. In such a way, empathizers become enablers by giving them the freedom to take advantage of them.   Followed by the manipulation, the narcissists gaslight the victims cause extreme self-doubt that led to thinking of themselves…

The academic success of students has a direct relationship with the personality of the students. Studies and research outcomes manifested that the students who are diagnosed with dark triad personalities are academically well-performing. You may wonder how a child can possess a dark triad personality? yes, they could. This article clarifies “why the narcissistic students are winning academically” and “the reason for these personality traits”.   A personality that owns a high sense of self-pride, entitlement, and attention-seeking are the traits of a mental illness which is known as a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with such narcissistic personalities follow malicious behavior to achieve control and pride. Such personality traits have also been found in students and adolescents. Narcissistic students are also found to be well-performing academically and the reasons for that are given in this article.    Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) cannot be diagnosed at a young age i.e., below 18. Due to their constantly developing habits and adapting to the changes in the environment in the adolescent period, diagnosing the personality of the kids is not possible. However, they show or express the narcissistic traits they have inherited externally.   Academic Performance of Narcissistic Students   Narcissism has some particular traits such as self esteem, bloated self pride, high entitlement, and attention seeking that help them in developing certain abilities to be successful. Looking closely at society, one can find that narcissistic people are successful in academics as well as careers. Not every narcissist is successful, but undoubtedly, most of the achievers are found to show narcissistic traits in them.   Studies attested that the high self-esteem trait in narcissistic teenagers helps them score high in the exams. Narcissistic teenagers are found to have both enhanced initiative and pleasant feelings. The enhanced initiative triggers the mental reflexes and the thought process to solve problems easily. Thus, it solidly develops the ability to learn and memorize things easily.    What are the abilities narcissistic students gain through narcissism?   The desire to have pride and feel entitled triggers the narcissistic kids to outperform others. The narcissistic kids find themselves superior and assume that they are special in this world. To validate that, they work hard and perform well in what they intend to do. The required qualities to perform well in academics are obtained through the narcissistic traits of the kids.   The qualities narcissistic kids obtain that help them to achieve in exams are mental toughness, competitiveness, and low anxiety & depression.   Mental toughness Teens with a narcissistic personality despise failure and shame as it would shrink their self glorification. So, the constant attempt to not lose in anything provides them the mental toughness to achieve. The mental toughness also intensifies the hardworking quality of narcissistic adolescents and helps them concentrate on what they desire.   The mental toughness of narcissists does not allow them to give up on anything easily. That’s why it is not easy to convince narcissists out of any situation.   Competitiveness Narcissistic students believe that they are special apart from others and make an effort to outshine others regardless of anything. This enhances the competitive behavior subconsciously. On the other hand, the education system plays a vital role in boosting the competitiveness of narcissistic teenagers.    Less anxiety & depression Researchers specify that narcissistic people are likely to have low anxiety, depression, and stress levels. The grandiose sense of the narcissistic students makes them feel superior and entitled. This grandiosity strengthens their self confidence and motivation. Thus, narcissistic kids do not stress as they believe everything is under their control. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you.  What are the factors that enhance narcissism in students? Kids and teenagers do not inherit narcissistic traits consciously, having said that, narcissism emerges in oneself, especially in kids, due to external factors. Although there are several factors that correlate the academics of students with narcissism, the main factors that enhance narcissism in students that help them to academically perform well and achieve good grades are the parenting, guidance of teachers, and grading system.   Give a Read: How does narcissism originate in Kids?   Parenting Parenting is one of the prime factors that lie as the origin of evolving narcissistic personality in kids. In the case of a kid possessing a narcissistic parent, the child has a higher chance of getting engulfed by a narcissistic personality due to the constant exposure of narcissistic traits.   Academically speaking, students’ personality affects far greater through the way of parenting whether the parents are narcissists or not. Despite the lack of personality development in kids, wrong parenting enhances narcissistic teenagers to perform well in their studies. The wrong parenting characteristics such as overvaluation and over-expectations impact the kid’s academic career.     Activation of narcissism in a child is due to overvaluation and devaluation or lack of attention. Praising and valuing lavishly makes the kids feel peculiar and develops self importance in them. Such parents do think that their kid is special than others and deserves to achieve more. It looks like the parents support the kid unconditionally, which is not.   The overvaluation subconsciously creates a grandiose personality in them. Such a personality then increases the urge for validation and attention. Thus, it motivates them to achieve success in exams to feel superior above others. On the other hand, the parents who overvalue the child also start expecting more from them, which indeed leads to the devaluation of the kids which again sparks narcissism within.   Guidance of Teachers Apart from the overvaluation of teachers, there are some other factors that stimulate the narcissistic personality in students. Not every teacher is toxic, anyways, there are teachers who judge students with physical appearance and their flattening way of speech. Judging such students and praising them…

Have you ever wondered that most people at high authorization show a high sign of dark triad personalities which includes being narcissistic? If yes, you might raise numerous questions such as “How would they be career wise successful?”, “How did they have such abilities to achieve so easily?”, “What could be the factors that drive them to be successful?” and so on. This article will answer that.   Narcissism is an upsurging phenomenon in society. It is a personality accompanied by a mental condition named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Not everyone who has this personality is mentally ill, however, they show major traits of NPD. Narcissists crave entitlement and power to control others. To possess that, they will go to any end.   Narcissists follow dark triad methods such as abuse, gaslight, manipulation, etc., to gain superiority in society. On the other hand, they also achieve grandiosity by gaining control showing their talents. They knew that acquiring success makes them a center of attention among the people and make them acknowledge the narcissists more. This is why narcissists want to be more successful than others.    Success can be anything for a narcissist like winning an argument, ranking top in academics, being a substantial businessman, leader, politician, etc. But the key motive behind them was to get surplus validation and entitlement.   Studies say that, On analyzing the personalities of successful people, the maximum number of people had shown narcissistic traits. In addition, they have enhanced organizational as well as learning skills adjoined with their personality. Scholars mentioned narcissism as a two-edged sword since it provides some quality skills in return for a dark triad personality. Are narcissists successful in life?   Psychology researchers say that narcissists are found to be more successful than others because they are inclined towards extrinsic success goals such as wealth, fame, position, and power but not on intrinsic goals like healthy relationships and personal growth. They seek a successful life to attain the power to control others to their will and obtain validation as they wish. Some of the key traits of narcissism that assists narcissists to be successful in their career are, Self-esteem Toughness Risk-taking   Give a Read: Dark Triad Narcissism and Its pattern of Abuse   Self-Esteem   Narcissistic people are obsessed with high self-esteem by having an inflated complexity about themselves, in other words, God complex. The ability to think highly of oneself adds as fuel to be successful narcissists in their career. How does self-esteem make narcissists successful?   The high self-esteem in narcissists develops an enormous self-confidence and the ability to be competitive. Narcissists despise losing and can’t accept failure. That is why narcissists hammer away more than anyone to become successful. They don’t want to lose credibility, power, or be looked down on by others.    Since narcissists think about being entitled and powerful all-time, narcissists develop a defined leadership as well as organizational skill to make things happen. They love to order, guide, and get validation from others which subconsciously inherits the leadership skills in them.   Self-esteem is a healthy personality that provides high-quality skills to be a successful entrepreneur, leader, or in any career. It is encouraged to have considerable self-esteem to be an achiever. However, self-esteem should be able to be controlled with self-control. Toughness   Toughness is the ability to not give up easily and work harder to achieve something. According to the NARC, a narcissist’s ultimate goal is always to protect his/her grandiose self and self-pride. So, a failure in a career could demolish their self-loathing fantasy. This is why the narcissistic personality builds a mental toughness to not lose at any circumstances.   Every research about narcissism says that those who are successful, have a well-built mental toughness, especially narcissists. If successful narcissists find any possibilities to lose, they follow any or even malevolent ways to retain their self-pride. And if there is any situation where the narcissists did lose, they strive to manipulate the situation with their mental toughness and make them look like a winner in the end. Risk Taking   A conclusion of research done by Maccoby.M, a famous psychologist, and researcher mentions that narcissism is of two types when it comes to the ability for success. One is productive narcissism and the other is unproductive narcissism. Only productive narcissists take risks and find a way to get their job done and be successful.   The majority of CEOs of companies are found to have narcissistic tendencies and they are identified to be great risk-takers. It is often misinterpreted as strong willpower with a charismatic character.   Furthermore, narcissists engage in risky actions only to harness endless admiration and attention. They also insist on putting their employers or friends at risk to achieve that. The heightened self confidence, motivation, and the urge to gain admiration trigger to take risky actions or decisions regardless of consequences.   How do narcissists get successful quicker?   Narcissists wish to achieve things that can be acquired in a short time. This is why narcissists get bored or show no interest in a true relationship or personality development which takes more effort and time. Narcissists have no fear to take risks in decision-making, manipulate taxes, or even cheat to become successful quicker. Researchers point out that not every type of narcissist possesses the skills to become successful, however, narcissists who are successful are said to have high intellectual and organizational skills through narcissism.   Recommended Read: How do narcissistic students become successful in academics?   Why narcissists successful are not long lasting?   Due to their elevated self esteem, narcissists do not like equally potential people and try to ruin them. This is why narcissists are bad at collaboration and partnerships. With that said, narcissists are also keen on materialistic gains and so, they are more likely to cheat business partners, obscure taxations, and torment their employees which is the reason for a non-long-lasting successful journey.   These are the things…

Are you the one who is constantly questioning your self worth, became mentally abused, felt unloved in a relationship, or got blamed for nothing? There are high chances of constant exposure to a narcissistic person with you. Here is why   Among people around us who follow their own life developing their personalities, there are people with personalities who are intentionally bound to harm others and their lives. Possessing this personality is known as a Dark Triad personality. The most common dark triad personality is narcissism and people who are diagnosed by it, follow a certain dark triad narcissistic personality pattern to hurt others. According to google trends, the term “narcissist” has been widely searched across the world for the past 10 years. This indicates the growth of narcissism in society. Types of Dark Triads   There are three types of disordered personalities that fall under the dark triad category. They are Narcissism Machiavellian Psychopathy A person who has a psychopathy disorder cannot control their emotions in hurting others. Meanwhile, Narcissism and Machiavellian diagnosed people are consciously hurt and manipulate others with intention. And that is why it is difficult to identify them in society.    People often misunderstand these disorders with stress, anxiety, and depression in lack of knowledge about these traits. Specifically, narcissistic traits are proliferating within people nowadays. So, awareness must be created about this dark triad narcissistic personality and its patterns    What does narcissism mean?   Narcissism is a term mentioning people who have similar traits from a mental disorder named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person with a narcissistic personality disorder possesses high self-esteem, lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of entitlement who seek constant validation and respect by controlling others.   Narcissists have traits of both Machiavellian and Psychopathy that include manipulation, self pride, and intention to hurt others. However, they are not psychopaths who cannot control their emotions. Narcissistic people can control their emotions and also feel guilt and shame while being malignant.   How to diagnose a narcissist person?   In 1988, Robert Raskin and Howard Terry had modulated an evaluation with sets of questions based on the statistical manual of mental disorders named Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI -40). The suspect who scores above 21-40 claimed to have more narcissistic traits such as high entitlement, exploitativeness, and more intentional binding characteristics.   Contrarily, a person with a low-end score of 3-10 NPI had been found to have very low self-esteem with high depression and anxiety. And the people who scored from 11-17 were considered to have a moderate personality.   What are the 4 main types of Narcissism?   Psychologists had analyzed the personality of narcissists and found that there are some differences in their traits. According to that, they classified several types of narcissists. The major 4 types of narcissistic personality almost comprise other variants. They are Grandiose Narcissist: High sense of entitlement and control Malignant Narcissist: Violent and deranged in nature Covert Narcissist: Hideous and covertly hurtful Communal Narcissist: Deceitful and act trustworthy Grandiose Narcissist: “High sense of entitlement and control ”   Grandiose Narcissists reportedly have high self esteem combined with a high desire for entitlement and control. People with this personality are always self centered and seek to be a leader of a group. A narcissist with grandiose traits often transpires to be a leader, politician, or primary person in a family.   The desire for power to control others life is itself that drives them to attain such places. They are always appreciated for their courage, boldness, and leadership skills. In lack of constant respect and admiration, they exploit others and attain control.   According to scholars, research says that grandiose narcissists can easily create a large organization or company as they are good risk-takers. However, they tend to fail at authorization by objectifying the employees or engaging in malicious activities for the business.   Do give a read: How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long-lasting?   Malignant Narcissist: “Violent and deranged in nature”   Malignant narcissists are found to carry more dark triads than other narcissistic variations. They are relevant to psychopathy at times, although their acts are intentionally bound. Malignant narcissists are extremely harmful with bloated self pride. They possess no morals in their act and manipulate situations to their needs.   Those who were diagnosed with malignant narcissism were fragile to criticism and cannot take the blame. Instead, their high self-esteem behavior tends to blame others for their inability to regulate themselves. Also, these people fantasize about power, success, and intellect over others. When their fantasy looks to be sliding down, they act by whatever means to achieve it.   To do that, they show no empathy and intentionally hurt others to gain superiority. Malignant narcissists have high insecurity and will find ways to hide them as they are afraid of getting exposed.   Covert Narcissism: “Hideous and covertly hurtful”   Covert narcissism also known as vulnerable narcissism does not have more self importance like other narcissistic traits. However, covert narcissists lack self confidence, self worth and seek ceaseless validation from their partners. Covert narcissists are tough to diagnose as they manipulate the partner or victim to get validation by portraying themselves as a weak persona.   In lack of validation, the narcissists intend to covertly abuse and blame shift their partners for their miserable lives. This is why covert narcissists are poor at having healthy relationships. In seek of attention and assurance, they look out for other people than their partners. As a result, covert narcissists lie, cheat and abuse their partners.  Communal Narcissists: “Deceitful and act trustworthy”   Communal narcissists use communal ways such as being mutual, cooperative, and trustworthy to gain an advantage over others. As grandiose narcissists, they expect high entitlement but in the form of providing face accompanying and support. Communal narcissists anticipate being an organizer or the reason to organize things in a group.   Communal narcissists boast themselves as “I’m a good…