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Am I a narcissist in a Relationship? 7 Reasons you’re not

For the most part, you are not the narcissist in a relationship if you think you are one. However, to check that, you must confirm things that you did in the past or do right now. This article will ensure you get that done effectively.   Firstly and foremostly, does a narcissist know they are the narcissist in the relationship? A study shows that narcissists do have insights into their narcissistic personality traits. Their self-pride, lack of empathy, and high self-esteem choose to ignore the flaws and be proud of them. So, if you are the one who does not want to be a narcissist but highly doubts “am I a narcissist” in the relationship, you’re not. To assure that, proceed further into this article.   Why do I feel like I am a narcissist?   Narcissists are good manipulators and gas lighters who can manipulate people or things in a way that their actions do not affect their credibility among others. So, narcissists gaslight you before you even have an idea of accusing them of their actions. This makes you feel that you were the reason for their actions. As a result, you have to take responsibility for a narcissist’s action, which in turn makes you feel like you’re the narcissist.   Having self-awareness, doing self-study, and taking responsibility for your actions are the things that narcissists aren’t capable of.  If you ever feel like you are a narcissist, do a self-evaluation by answering the questions below.   1. Who discarded first?   If you haven’t known about narcissism before and fell right into the narcissistic trap, you cannot be the one who discards the partner first without experiencing any abuse. The discarding is a crucial narcissistic tactic followed by every narcissist to initiate the abusive patterns.   Why do narcissists discard you? Narcissists intentionally discard you to initiate the abusive patterns in a relationship, as well as in search of another source of validation and attention. So, if you are the one thinking you are the narcissist, be sure of who initiated the abuse by discarding it. You are probably not a narcissist if you haven’t discarded it first.   2. Who constantly got hurt after every conversation?   Having a conversation with a narcissist can be exhaustive and tough. You might have heard that “A healthy conversation is a key in a relationship” But it doesn’t work in the narcissist relationship.   Why narcissistic partners cannot have a healthy conversation? Narcissists can’t have a healthy conversation as they don’t hold the accountability for their doings and blame-shift them to protect their self-pride. The lack of accountability in a narcissist causes the victims to believe the fault was theirs. This, in turn, hurts the victim at the end of every conversation with a narcissist.   So, remember, if you are the one who got hurt while being in an abusive phase, you might not be a narcissist.   Give a Read: Abusive Patterns of Narcissists   3. Who apologized at every end of a conversation?   Followed by getting hurt in a conversation with a narcissist, you might end up apologizing to them. The fear of losing the relationship and the guilt for things that you don’t need to take responsibility for will push you to apologize to the narcissist. The narcissist wants their partner to apologize to feel entitled at the end of the conversation. It is always the narcissist who will hold the upper hand in the conversation during the abusive phase of a narcissistic relationship.   Do narcissists ever apologize to their partners? Narcissists do apologize only when they feel like the victim is getting better after the abusive relationship. They use the apology as a hoovering tactic to pull the victim back into the narcissistic relationship. As their elevated self-pride does not allow them to apologize, narcissists often come up with the phrase “I’m sorry that you felt that way”, which again gaslights the victim.   So, if you have no intention to hoover your partner by apologizing but to save the relationship, you are in the good end.   4. Who doesn’t care if one of you got hurt?   Narcissists have no empathy for others, even for their partners but seek constant validation and care from empathetic people. Narcissists envy your empathy, kindness, and seek to destroy the good qualities in you. That is why narcissists abuse their partners to feel entitled for gaining the power to control others.   So, a narcissist typically ignores or takes no responsibility if their partner gets hurt, whereas others care about their partner’s emotions and mental health. This apprehends that you possess no traits of narcissism if you care about your partner.   Give a Read: 6 Types of people who make the narcissistic relationship long-lasting    5. Who separates friends and family from life?   Narcissists tend to isolate the victims from their friends and family. They want the victim to be vulnerable enough so that he/she wouldn’t reach out to someone for help or report about the abuse they’re going through.   Although not every narcissist is capable of successfully isolating you from the family, they can go far in doing such acts.   Why do narcissists isolate you from friends and family? Narcissists fear their dark triad personality getting exposed to society. They become hysterical and more abusive if they get accused of their malicious act; which is why they isolate the victim from their family and supporters. Narcissists could not bear shame and accusations as they destroy their bloated self-esteem.   Therefore, if you do not intend to separate your partner and family, stop doubting you are the narcissist in the relationship.   6. Do you care about your partner’s life?   Anyone who is in love cares for their partner’s health, mental stability, goals, and dreams. But, in the case of a narcissist, they do not care about their partner’s life. It is always about them who should have…

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6 types of people who make narcissistic relationships long-lasting

Narcissistic people aren’t healthy for any relationship. Their high self-esteem, grandiose sense of entitlement, self-centered behavior seek a perennial supply of valuation and attention. To acquire that, narcissists follow malevolent behaviors like abuse, manipulation, and gaslighting. But, have you ever wondered, “How can some people have a prolonged relationship with a narcissist?” Well, this article will clear that up for you.   Narcissists find attention, valuation, and admiration of others as a source to fulfill the never-ending hollow mind. If someone validates the narcissists, they visualize the person as a quality source of supply, and so, they make efforts to build a relationship with them. Thus, a narcissistic relationship will be established and the narcissist can excavate constant validation from the partner.   The one with a narcissistic personality sees attention, appraisals, controls, or other extrinsic assets as worthy. With that said, narcissists do not value their partner’s emotions, love expectations, and needs. So, it requires an immense sacrifice to have a long-lasting relationship with the narcissist.    Let’s see the types of people who will endure such abuse and sacrifices to make the narcissistic relationship work.   What types of people make the narcissistic relationship work?   Being married or having any relationship with a narcissist or can be exhaustive and abusive. You cannot follow your dreams, be happy with others, or have personal growth with a narcissist in a relationship. Instead, you will end up spending your energy and time validating them. It almost looks like you are living their life or the life how they want you to have.   The only people who can bear the constant discarding, abuse, gaslighting, and manipulation of the narcissist and expect nothing in return can be in a narcissistic relationship. There are people who indeed have traits to attract narcissists to have long-lasting relationships.   Narcissists can go picky about selecting people with such traits as being empathetic, kind, monogamous, and emotionally weak as a partner. Although it might differ, these are the people who can sustain a narcissistic relationship longer.   Healers Relationship Keepers Reputable Insecure ones Betas Dark triad personalities  are the people who are capable of bargaining their life to live in a narcissistic relationship.   1. Healers   A person who is a healer believes in changing others by showing empathy and kindness. People with a healing mentality always look for people who are insecure, hurt, and toxic to provide support and advice. Such healers are good validators, lovers and are a healthy source of supply to narcissists.   While being in a narcissistic relationship, discarding and other malicious traits will start appearing once the narcissist finds the source is not enough. Healing personality people believe in changing such traits in time by showering with love and validation. Although the relationship is abusive and blame-shifting, these types of people stick to their belief of changing a narcissist.   Can a narcissist change? It is a great dilemma; Narcissism lowers in people as their age increases. In addition to that, research suggests that a narcissist can develop the ability to show empathy while seeing things from others’ perspectives. Talk therapy can suggest some ways to lower the traits of narcissism in people if they intend to reach out for help.   However, often narcissists’ grandiosity of self-pride does not agree with changing, as they are proud of being themselves. So, unless healers accept that narcissists cannot be changed in lack of personal growth and therapy, the abusive narcissistic relationships will continue long-lasting.   2. Relationship Keepers   Some people are desperate to save a relationship from falling apart. They believe in an eternal relationship with a partner, regardless of his/her personality. Such people are the ones who value relationships more than mental health. They do not want to lose a relationship, as they waited for a long time to get one.   So, they choose to endure emotional pain, abuse, devalue and trauma bonding to get hold of the narcissistic relationship. And that explains the long-lasting relationship with narcissists.   3. Reputable   Certain people do know about their partner’s disability to have a good personality. They also might know that their partner is a narcissist but cannot take action on it by going no-contact or applying for a divorce for the sake of their reputation. Such reputable people value society’s gossip and prestige more than their personal life and decide not to sever the bond with a narcissistic partner.   Often these people have emotional instability due to the continual exposure to drama and gaslighting. To maintain their reputation, they cannot even expose or share the abusive relationship they are enduring for a long.   4. Insecure ones   When people are insecure about themselves, they settle with anyone who just accepts them. Insecure people typically think others are better than them in every aspect. So, when they fall into a narcissistic love, they visualize the narcissistic partner in a higher place.   Insecure ones do think that the narcissistic partner deserves more than them and choose to stay by their side (or it may be the effects of the manipulation of a narcissist). This gives the narcissist partner full authority and control over them. So, insecure people suffer the most in narcissistic relationships. Unless having adequate self-worth and overcoming the insecurities, undoing the narcissistic relationship is not possible.   Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you.    5. Betas   A person with a beta personality is inclusively nice, kind, and respectful. A beta person is mostly monogamous, loyal, and caring in a relationship, especially a beta man who cares more for a woman. One with such a personality wants to be the first one to help others, as they wish to be a dependable person.   A person with beta behavior…

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6 Factors that originates narcissism in Kids

People diagnosed with narcissism or who show narcissistic traits have malevolent behaviors that harm others and are self-destructive too. Witnessing kids acquire such personalities can be hurtful. Find out the different factors that originate the narcissistic behaviors in innocent kids and adolescents. So, you can avoid consequences before it’s too late.   Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or the narcissistic traits in a person does not pop out suddenly out of nowhere. Instead, these dark triad personality traits of a narcissist are the impact of external factors that are experienced in his/her childhood.   Fortunately, psychologists suggest that narcissism can only be diagnosed in adolescents above the age of 18. This determines that the narcissistic personality slowly builds up into children and fruits as a mental illness at age of 18. So, a proper regulation in personality development must be provided to a child to evade narcissistic traits in the future.   Kids and adolescents inherit habits and personalities from society more than older people. Their mind is much focused and curious about learning something. With a constantly developing brain, children could learn things effortlessly at that age. That is why the young age sets a base for developing a personality for the child’s future.   Give a Read: How to introduce Personality Development to Kids?   Sources through narcissism steps into childhood   Narcissism includes the traits of grandiose exhibitionism, a sense of entitlement, self-importance, and high self-esteem in a person. Children with narcissistic personalities look to be selfish and competitive fellows in others’ view. These traits indeed provide abilities attached to the traits that help them to perform well in academics. So, society does appreciate such traits in kids initially without knowing narcissism.   When such personalities develop, a narcissistic individual will seek exploitation of others, entitlement, pride, and attention. He/she values any extrinsic assets other than intrinsic things like relationships and personal growth. They do not value the emotions of others and hurt others in seek of attention and control. This conniving behavior of narcissists results in self-destroying when people stop validating them.   Any person would not want a kid to get engulfed in narcissism, and that is why they should be aware of what originates these characteristics in them and avoid them sooner.   Wrong Parenting Childhood Shame Education System Lack of Personality Development Romantic Relationships Social Media are the major factors that influence the narcissistic personality in kids, teens, or adolescents. Regulating and modulating these aspects in the right way can prevent a child from falling into narcissism. 1. Wrong Parenting   Research shows that parents who are authoritative and happy develop children with optimistic and kind behavior, whereas permissive parenting leads to developing negative and malicious behavior in kids. This shows how parenting impacts the character of the kids.   A good way of parenting influences good morals, habits, and empathy in kids that helps the kid to become virtuous. Contrarily, bad parenting can cause kids to grow stressed, anxious, insecure, and other malevolent behaviors. Overvaluation, devaluation, abandonment, and narcissistic parents are the 4 main aspects of parenting styles that can develop narcissism in kids  Overvaluation   Idealization or overvaluation of a kid is that the parents think that their kids are special, precious, and deserve more attention. They think that their kids are far better than other kids and validate them often. Such parents do ignore or manipulate the flaws of the kids and tend to appreciate any behavior the kid possesses.   For instance, if a kid loses a running race, a normal parent would react like “It’s okay, the opponent was good, you can win next time in practice”. But the overvaluing parents try to maneuver the flaws of the kid by saying “You were the best, the opponent got lucky or might have cheated”.   This may look like a parent being affectionate and kind whereas it indeed creates a mindset of being special and superior in kids. In such a way the self-esteem and self-importance in kids peaks and that is the first stage to fall into narcissism. Devaluation   If parents overvalue their kids, the expectation of them increases simultaneously. Such parents praise and admire their kids when they achieve something extrinsic from which they can be proud. They see their kids as a source of prestige in society and if that fails to happen, devaluation begins.     The devaluation of kids is mostly verbal abuse, from which they hurt the child for not satisfying their expectations. They compare the kids with others, shame, and criticize repeatedly, makes the kid insecure and starve for validation. The devaluation practice mostly brings up covert narcissism in kids.     Abandonment   Giving kids the silent treatment or abandoning them will increase the longevity of affection, attachment as well as anger issues. Without any guidance from wise personas, a kid is more vulnerable to malicious acts in society. Such adolescents tend to become malignant narcissists and fall into addictive drugs and alcohol.   Give a Read: What are the Types of Narcissism?   Narcissistic Parents   When a kid grows under the dark shadow of narcissistic parents, he/she is going to experience every possible narcissistic trait and learn survival tactics through them. The chance of sinking into narcissism gets increased every day due to the constant exposure to narcissistic behaviors.   The kids might subconsciously believe that the lifestyle of their parents is what brings happiness and success. Following the same vicious path, the child slowly fell into the dark triad personality.   2. Childhood Shame   You might come across narcissists who brag about their childhood traumas. Whether the trauma is from the abuse of parents, teachers, friends, or society; narcissists use this trauma as an excuse for justifying the actions of their personality traits. However, it was not the trauma that made them possess this narcissistic personality, but the shame. In the act of hiding the shame, they perceive them as trauma to validate their actions.   The…

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Why are narcissistic students academically successful?

The academic success of students has a direct relationship with the personality of the students. Studies and research outcomes manifested that the students who are diagnosed with dark triad personalities are academically well-performing. You may wonder how a child can possess a dark triad personality? yes, they could. This article clarifies “why the narcissistic students are winning academically” and “the reason for these personality traits”.   A personality that owns a high sense of self-pride, entitlement, and attention-seeking are the traits of a mental illness which is known as a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with such narcissistic personalities follow malicious behavior to achieve control and pride. Such personality traits have also been found in students and adolescents. Narcissistic students are also found to be well-performing academically and the reasons for that are given in this article.    Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD) cannot be diagnosed at a young age i.e., below 18. Due to their constantly developing habits and adapting to the changes in the environment in the adolescent period, diagnosing the personality of the kids is not possible. However, they show or express the narcissistic traits they have inherited externally.   Academic Performance of Narcissistic Students   Narcissism has some particular traits such as self esteem, bloated self pride, high entitlement, and attention seeking that help them in developing certain abilities to be successful. Looking closely at society, one can find that narcissistic people are successful in academics as well as careers. Not every narcissist is successful, but undoubtedly, most of the achievers are found to show narcissistic traits in them.   Studies attested that the high self-esteem trait in narcissistic teenagers helps them score high in the exams. Narcissistic teenagers are found to have both enhanced initiative and pleasant feelings. The enhanced initiative triggers the mental reflexes and the thought process to solve problems easily. Thus, it solidly develops the ability to learn and memorize things easily.    What are the abilities narcissistic students gain through narcissism?   The desire to have pride and feel entitled triggers the narcissistic kids to outperform others. The narcissistic kids find themselves superior and assume that they are special in this world. To validate that, they work hard and perform well in what they intend to do. The required qualities to perform well in academics are obtained through the narcissistic traits of the kids.   The qualities narcissistic kids obtain that help them to achieve in exams are mental toughness, competitiveness, and low anxiety & depression.   Mental toughness Teens with a narcissistic personality despise failure and shame as it would shrink their self glorification. So, the constant attempt to not lose in anything provides them the mental toughness to achieve. The mental toughness also intensifies the hardworking quality of narcissistic adolescents and helps them concentrate on what they desire.   The mental toughness of narcissists does not allow them to give up on anything easily. That’s why it is not easy to convince narcissists out of any situation.   Competitiveness Narcissistic students believe that they are special apart from others and make an effort to outshine others regardless of anything. This enhances the competitive behavior subconsciously. On the other hand, the education system plays a vital role in boosting the competitiveness of narcissistic teenagers.    Less anxiety & depression Researchers specify that narcissistic people are likely to have low anxiety, depression, and stress levels. The grandiose sense of the narcissistic students makes them feel superior and entitled. This grandiosity strengthens their self confidence and motivation. Thus, narcissistic kids do not stress as they believe everything is under their control. Have you ever experienced narcissistic abuse or currently experiencing one? Are you struggling to vent about that to anyone? Remember that venting to somebody who listens to you is the first step to healing. So, register here and vent to a listener who understands you.  What are the factors that enhance narcissism in students? Kids and teenagers do not inherit narcissistic traits consciously, having said that, narcissism emerges in oneself, especially in kids, due to external factors. Although there are several factors that correlate the academics of students with narcissism, the main factors that enhance narcissism in students that help them to academically perform well and achieve good grades are the parenting, guidance of teachers, and grading system.   Give a Read: How does narcissism originate in Kids?   Parenting Parenting is one of the prime factors that lie as the origin of evolving narcissistic personality in kids. In the case of a kid possessing a narcissistic parent, the child has a higher chance of getting engulfed by a narcissistic personality due to the constant exposure of narcissistic traits.   Academically speaking, students’ personality affects far greater through the way of parenting whether the parents are narcissists or not. Despite the lack of personality development in kids, wrong parenting enhances narcissistic teenagers to perform well in their studies. The wrong parenting characteristics such as overvaluation and over-expectations impact the kid’s academic career.     Activation of narcissism in a child is due to overvaluation and devaluation or lack of attention. Praising and valuing lavishly makes the kids feel peculiar and develops self importance in them. Such parents do think that their kid is special than others and deserves to achieve more. It looks like the parents support the kid unconditionally, which is not.   The overvaluation subconsciously creates a grandiose personality in them. Such a personality then increases the urge for validation and attention. Thus, it motivates them to achieve success in exams to feel superior above others. On the other hand, the parents who overvalue the child also start expecting more from them, which indeed leads to the devaluation of the kids which again sparks narcissism within.   Guidance of Teachers Apart from the overvaluation of teachers, there are some other factors that stimulate the narcissistic personality in students. Not every teacher is toxic, anyways, there are teachers who judge students with physical appearance and their flattening way of speech. Judging such students and praising them…

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How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long lasting?

Have you ever wondered that most people at high authorization show a high sign of dark triad personalities which includes being narcissistic? If yes, you might raise numerous questions such as “How would they be career wise successful?”, “How did they have such abilities to achieve so easily?”, “What could be the factors that drive them to be successful?” and so on. This article will answer that.   Narcissism is an upsurging phenomenon in society. It is a personality accompanied by a mental condition named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Not everyone who has this personality is mentally ill, however, they show major traits of NPD. Narcissists crave entitlement and power to control others. To possess that, they will go to any end.   Narcissists follow dark triad methods such as abuse, gaslight, manipulation, etc., to gain superiority in society. On the other hand, they also achieve grandiosity by gaining control showing their talents. They knew that acquiring success makes them a center of attention among the people and make them acknowledge the narcissists more. This is why narcissists want to be more successful than others.    Success can be anything for a narcissist like winning an argument, ranking top in academics, being a substantial businessman, leader, politician, etc. But the key motive behind them was to get surplus validation and entitlement.   Studies say that, On analyzing the personalities of successful people, the maximum number of people had shown narcissistic traits. In addition, they have enhanced organizational as well as learning skills adjoined with their personality. Scholars mentioned narcissism as a two-edged sword since it provides some quality skills in return for a dark triad personality. Are narcissists successful in life?   Psychology researchers say that narcissists are found to be more successful than others because they are inclined towards extrinsic success goals such as wealth, fame, position, and power but not on intrinsic goals like healthy relationships and personal growth. They seek a successful life to attain the power to control others to their will and obtain validation as they wish. Some of the key traits of narcissism that assists narcissists to be successful in their career are, Self-esteem Toughness Risk-taking   Give a Read: Dark Triad Narcissism and Its pattern of Abuse   Self-Esteem   Narcissistic people are obsessed with high self-esteem by having an inflated complexity about themselves, in other words, God complex. The ability to think highly of oneself adds as fuel to be successful narcissists in their career. How does self-esteem make narcissists successful?   The high self-esteem in narcissists develops an enormous self-confidence and the ability to be competitive. Narcissists despise losing and can’t accept failure. That is why narcissists hammer away more than anyone to become successful. They don’t want to lose credibility, power, or be looked down on by others.    Since narcissists think about being entitled and powerful all-time, narcissists develop a defined leadership as well as organizational skill to make things happen. They love to order, guide, and get validation from others which subconsciously inherits the leadership skills in them.   Self-esteem is a healthy personality that provides high-quality skills to be a successful entrepreneur, leader, or in any career. It is encouraged to have considerable self-esteem to be an achiever. However, self-esteem should be able to be controlled with self-control. Toughness   Toughness is the ability to not give up easily and work harder to achieve something. According to the NARC, a narcissist’s ultimate goal is always to protect his/her grandiose self and self-pride. So, a failure in a career could demolish their self-loathing fantasy. This is why the narcissistic personality builds a mental toughness to not lose at any circumstances.   Every research about narcissism says that those who are successful, have a well-built mental toughness, especially narcissists. If successful narcissists find any possibilities to lose, they follow any or even malevolent ways to retain their self-pride. And if there is any situation where the narcissists did lose, they strive to manipulate the situation with their mental toughness and make them look like a winner in the end. Risk Taking   A conclusion of research done by Maccoby.M, a famous psychologist, and researcher mentions that narcissism is of two types when it comes to the ability for success. One is productive narcissism and the other is unproductive narcissism. Only productive narcissists take risks and find a way to get their job done and be successful.   The majority of CEOs of companies are found to have narcissistic tendencies and they are identified to be great risk-takers. It is often misinterpreted as strong willpower with a charismatic character.   Furthermore, narcissists engage in risky actions only to harness endless admiration and attention. They also insist on putting their employers or friends at risk to achieve that. The heightened self confidence, motivation, and the urge to gain admiration trigger to take risky actions or decisions regardless of consequences.   How do narcissists get successful quicker?   Narcissists wish to achieve things that can be acquired in a short time. This is why narcissists get bored or show no interest in a true relationship or personality development which takes more effort and time. Narcissists have no fear to take risks in decision-making, manipulate taxes, or even cheat to become successful quicker. Researchers point out that not every type of narcissist possesses the skills to become successful, however, narcissists who are successful are said to have high intellectual and organizational skills through narcissism.   Recommended Read: How do narcissistic students become successful in academics?   Why narcissists successful are not long lasting?   Due to their elevated self esteem, narcissists do not like equally potential people and try to ruin them. This is why narcissists are bad at collaboration and partnerships. With that said, narcissists are also keen on materialistic gains and so, they are more likely to cheat business partners, obscure taxations, and torment their employees which is the reason for a non-long-lasting successful journey.   These are the things…

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4 Types of Narcissism and its Pattern of Abuse

Are you the one who is constantly questioning your self worth, became mentally abused, felt unloved in a relationship, or got blamed for nothing? There are high chances of constant exposure to a narcissistic person with you. Here is why   Among people around us who follow their own life developing their personalities, there are people with personalities who are intentionally bound to harm others and their lives. Possessing this personality is known as a Dark Triad personality. The most common dark triad personality is narcissism and people who are diagnosed by it, follow a certain dark triad narcissistic personality pattern to hurt others. According to google trends, the term “narcissist” has been widely searched across the world for the past 10 years. This indicates the growth of narcissism in society. Types of Dark Triads   There are three types of disordered personalities that fall under the dark triad category. They are Narcissism Machiavellian Psychopathy A person who has a psychopathy disorder cannot control their emotions in hurting others. Meanwhile, Narcissism and Machiavellian diagnosed people are consciously hurt and manipulate others with intention. And that is why it is difficult to identify them in society.    People often misunderstand these disorders with stress, anxiety, and depression in lack of knowledge about these traits. Specifically, narcissistic traits are proliferating within people nowadays. So, awareness must be created about this dark triad narcissistic personality and its patterns    What does narcissism mean?   Narcissism is a term mentioning people who have similar traits from a mental disorder named narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). A person with a narcissistic personality disorder possesses high self-esteem, lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of entitlement who seek constant validation and respect by controlling others.   Narcissists have traits of both Machiavellian and Psychopathy that include manipulation, self pride, and intention to hurt others. However, they are not psychopaths who cannot control their emotions. Narcissistic people can control their emotions and also feel guilt and shame while being malignant.   How to diagnose a narcissist person?   In 1988, Robert Raskin and Howard Terry had modulated an evaluation with sets of questions based on the statistical manual of mental disorders named Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI -40). The suspect who scores above 21-40 claimed to have more narcissistic traits such as high entitlement, exploitativeness, and more intentional binding characteristics.   Contrarily, a person with a low-end score of 3-10 NPI had been found to have very low self-esteem with high depression and anxiety. And the people who scored from 11-17 were considered to have a moderate personality.   What are the 4 main types of Narcissism?   Psychologists had analyzed the personality of narcissists and found that there are some differences in their traits. According to that, they classified several types of narcissists. The major 4 types of narcissistic personality almost comprise other variants. They are Grandiose Narcissist: High sense of entitlement and control Malignant Narcissist: Violent and deranged in nature Covert Narcissist: Hideous and covertly hurtful Communal Narcissist: Deceitful and act trustworthy Grandiose Narcissist: “High sense of entitlement and control ”   Grandiose Narcissists reportedly have high self esteem combined with a high desire for entitlement and control. People with this personality are always self centered and seek to be a leader of a group. A narcissist with grandiose traits often transpires to be a leader, politician, or primary person in a family.   The desire for power to control others life is itself that drives them to attain such places. They are always appreciated for their courage, boldness, and leadership skills. In lack of constant respect and admiration, they exploit others and attain control.   According to scholars, research says that grandiose narcissists can easily create a large organization or company as they are good risk-takers. However, they tend to fail at authorization by objectifying the employees or engaging in malicious activities for the business.   Do give a read: How do Narcissists achieve success quicker but not long-lasting?   Malignant Narcissist: “Violent and deranged in nature”   Malignant narcissists are found to carry more dark triads than other narcissistic variations. They are relevant to psychopathy at times, although their acts are intentionally bound. Malignant narcissists are extremely harmful with bloated self pride. They possess no morals in their act and manipulate situations to their needs.   Those who were diagnosed with malignant narcissism were fragile to criticism and cannot take the blame. Instead, their high self-esteem behavior tends to blame others for their inability to regulate themselves. Also, these people fantasize about power, success, and intellect over others. When their fantasy looks to be sliding down, they act by whatever means to achieve it.   To do that, they show no empathy and intentionally hurt others to gain superiority. Malignant narcissists have high insecurity and will find ways to hide them as they are afraid of getting exposed.   Covert Narcissism: “Hideous and covertly hurtful”   Covert narcissism also known as vulnerable narcissism does not have more self importance like other narcissistic traits. However, covert narcissists lack self confidence, self worth and seek ceaseless validation from their partners. Covert narcissists are tough to diagnose as they manipulate the partner or victim to get validation by portraying themselves as a weak persona.   In lack of validation, the narcissists intend to covertly abuse and blame shift their partners for their miserable lives. This is why covert narcissists are poor at having healthy relationships. In seek of attention and assurance, they look out for other people than their partners. As a result, covert narcissists lie, cheat and abuse their partners.  Communal Narcissists: “Deceitful and act trustworthy”   Communal narcissists use communal ways such as being mutual, cooperative, and trustworthy to gain an advantage over others. As grandiose narcissists, they expect high entitlement but in the form of providing face accompanying and support. Communal narcissists anticipate being an organizer or the reason to organize things in a group.   Communal narcissists boast themselves as “I’m a good…

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